Newly wed woes

I got married a few months ago and I don’t think I want to be married anymore. Before anyone goes after me I want to state that I didn’t take marriage lightly and I wasn’t in a rush to tie the knot. I was with my husband for almost 5 years when we got married. The reason I am considering leaving is because of our families. His family ruined our wedding. They completely disrespected my parents and my family members. His nephew got wasted early and started a huge brawl at our reception. He was drunkenly harassing my sister all night saying inappropriate things to her. He was was harassing the maid of honors boyfriend and starting fights with him all night that several people had to break up. The worst that happened was the nephews mom then got involved and attacked my the MOH and her boyfriend on the dance floor. Her son and his cousins then jumped the moh and her boyfriend on the dance floor. They knocked over my 83 year old grand father. We still had a few hours left and I hadn’t even gotten a chance to dance or enjoy the night as I was busy doing wedding related duties. The night was ruined and canceled abruptly because of these people. My parents paid for our wedding with no help from his family financially and this is how they repay them? By ruining the wedding. To make matters worse it started a huge family war. My siblings attacked me afterwards and harassed me on my honeymoon blaming me for his families trashy behavior. It’s been three months with no apologies. His family blames boyfriend and refuse to believe their golden child nephew acted so terribly. It has been horrible for me. I fell into a very deep and severe depression because of this incident. I didn’t want to leave my house, my work life suffered, I have gained weight, I’ve quit talking to my friends. My siblings have all turned their backs on me and I’m completely alone. I was so broken because of these people and I feel like the only way I will ever be okay is to start fresh. I am just angry and tired of it. It is so bad that we don’t want to have children now because we don’t want to bring a child in this world and have to be around them all. I wouldn’t be able to have a baby shower because I can’t have the families in the same room. Here’s another issue, my husband never held anyone on his side responsible. He never directly addressed to them that what they did was horrible. I was going to change my name and now I won’t because I don’t want to be associated with his family. He quit speaking to the nephew and his sisters family, but then blames me for it. I just don’t think I can stay with him anymore. I want a fresh start. I want to be with someone who’s family has manners and is respectful. Im just done and I’m done feeling depressed and broke because of these people. Another issue is my siblings and I were never really close and they never liked my husband. They used our wedding as a means to finally cut me down and they all have abandoned me. I can’t even leave him because I literally have no where to go now and no money. I’m stuck in a horrible situation surrounded by selfish mean people on both sides.

Submitted June 03, 2019 at 09:50PM

I got married a few months ago and I don’t think I want to be married anymore. Before anyone goes after me I want to state that I didn’t take marriage lightly and I wasn’t in a rush to tie the knot. I was with my husband for almost 5 years when we got married. The reason I am considering leaving is because of our families. His family ruined our wedding. They completely disrespected my parents and my family members. His nephew got wasted early and started a huge brawl at our reception. He was drunkenly harassing my sister all night saying inappropriate things to her. He was was harassing the maid of honors boyfriend and starting fights with him all night that several people had to break up. The worst that happened was the nephews mom then got involved and attacked my the MOH and her boyfriend on the dance floor. Her son and his cousins then jumped the moh and her boyfriend on the dance floor. They knocked over my 83 year old grand father. We still had a few hours left and I hadn’t even gotten a chance to dance or enjoy the night as I was busy doing wedding related duties. The night was ruined and canceled abruptly because of these people. My parents paid for our wedding with no help from his family financially and this is how they repay them? By ruining the wedding. To make matters worse it started a huge family war. My siblings attacked me afterwards and harassed me on my honeymoon blaming me for his families trashy behavior. It’s been three months with no apologies. His family blames boyfriend and refuse to believe their golden child nephew acted so terribly. It has been horrible for me. I fell into a very deep and severe depression because of this incident. I didn’t want to leave my house, my work life suffered, I have gained weight, I’ve quit talking to my friends. My siblings have all turned their backs on me and I’m completely alone. I was so broken because of these people and I feel like the only way I will ever be okay is to start fresh. I am just angry and tired of it. It is so bad that we don’t want to have children now because we don’t want to bring a child in this world and have to be around them all. I wouldn’t be able to have a baby shower because I can’t have the families in the same room. Here’s another issue, my husband never held anyone on his side responsible. He never directly addressed to them that what they did was horrible. I was going to change my name and now I won’t because I don’t want to be associated with his family. He quit speaking to the nephew and his sisters family, but then blames me for it. I just don’t think I can stay with him anymore. I want a fresh start. I want to be with someone who’s family has manners and is respectful. Im just done and I’m done feeling depressed and broke because of these people. Another issue is my siblings and I were never really close and they never liked my husband. They used our wedding as a means to finally cut me down and they all have abandoned me. I can’t even leave him because I literally have no where to go now and no money. I’m stuck in a horrible situation surrounded by selfish mean people on both sides.