Two years ago, my ex and I broke up because I couldn't find the hole. That destroyed my sexual confidence, but now I am super grateful for it.

I'm 22 years old. I was in a relationship with my then-girlfriend for three years, we broke up in 2019. We were both REALLY sexually inexperienced. She was a virgin, and me? I actually had sex prior to our relationship, but it was when I was 13. Yes, the girl put it in for me. I was basically a dildo the way she was putting me inside her LOL!

But yes, my ex and I broke up due to the arguments we would have after our failed attempts at sex. We always felt like "this time for sure" yet, it just was never that time. She viewed it as "my job as the man" to put it in her and take control, and I viewed it as her duty as the owner of a vagina to guide me around because I was clearly lost in pussy town.

I felt like less of a man. Embarrassed by potential conversations she would have with friends. I mean, 3 years and not once did we fuck? All because I couldn't find the hole? Don't even get me started on the jealously I felt knowing that someone else will be taking the virginity of the girl I was in love with due to my ignorance. Man 2019-2020 was not fun for me. I admit I was super hard on myself.

There's a whole lot of details I can get in about all that, but I'm going to skip to why I am grateful for it. It forced me to seek education and not rush it. I actually took time to read articles and look at diagrams of the vulva. I learned about the outer parts, I'm getting better with the inner parts, I learned about the clit, and how to purposely stimulate it instead of "getting lucky" finding a sweet spot she loves. I still do this, I take a trip to r/pussy and I go, "there's the clit, the hood, labia majora, labia minora, and when visible I find the hole. I can't find the article, but I remember it saying the vaginal opening is right above the meeting of the labia minora.. or the fourchette.

I have to admit, I haven't put this new fount education to use. But, I feel my sexual confidence rising because I have a lot more knowledge than I ever had before. Lastly, it kinda sucks knowing perhaps if I wet the tip of my dick and mixed it with her juices, my dick most likely would have found his home in pussy town.. but without the breakup, this knowledge would have never come I feel. Everything happens for a reason right?

Thanks for reading.

TL;DR: I couldn't find the hole in my past relationship, which led to fights and then a breakup. Lost sexual confidence. The confidence came back once I started researching and learning the parts of the vulva and vagina. Hoping to put my newfound knowledge to use soon.

Submitted August 30, 2021 at 12:56AM

I'm 22 years old. I was in a relationship with my then-girlfriend for three years, we broke up in 2019. We were both REALLY sexually inexperienced. She was a virgin, and me? I actually had sex prior to our relationship, but it was when I was 13. Yes, the girl put it in for me. I was basically a dildo the way she was putting me inside her LOL!But yes, my ex and I broke up due to the arguments we would have after our failed attempts at sex. We always felt like "this time for sure" yet, it just was never that time. She viewed it as "my job as the man" to put it in her and take control, and I viewed it as her duty as the owner of a vagina to guide me around because I was clearly lost in pussy town.I felt like less of a man. Embarrassed by potential conversations she would have with friends. I mean, 3 years and not once did we fuck? All because I couldn't find the hole? Don't even get me started on the jealously I felt knowing that someone else will be taking the virginity of the girl I was in love with due to my ignorance. Man 2019-2020 was not fun for me. I admit I was super hard on myself.There's a whole lot of details I can get in about all that, but I'm going to skip to why I am grateful for it. It forced me to seek education and not rush it. I actually took time to read articles and look at diagrams of the vulva. I learned about the outer parts, I'm getting better with the inner parts, I learned about the clit, and how to purposely stimulate it instead of "getting lucky" finding a sweet spot she loves. I still do this, I take a trip to r/pussy and I go, "there's the clit, the hood, labia majora, labia minora, and when visible I find the hole. I can't find the article, but I remember it saying the vaginal opening is right above the meeting of the labia minora.. or the fourchette.I have to admit, I haven't put this new fount education to use. But, I feel my sexual confidence rising because I have a lot more knowledge than I ever had before. Lastly, it kinda sucks knowing perhaps if I wet the tip of my dick and mixed it with her juices, my dick most likely would have found his home in pussy town.. but without the breakup, this knowledge would have never come I feel. Everything happens for a reason right?Thanks for reading.TL;DR: I couldn't find the hole in my past relationship, which led to fights and then a breakup. Lost sexual confidence. The confidence came back once I started researching and learning the parts of the vulva and vagina. Hoping to put my newfound knowledge to use soon.