Overwhelming? Or just not interested.

I'll try to keep this as short as possible.

I matched with a girl on Hinged about 2-3 weeks ago. We chatted for a day or so and I gave her my number. Never got a text. Oh well, onto the next one.

Fast forward about 2.5 weeks, I get a text from her asking how I was and that she was sorry she didn't reach out sooner. First thought in my head was "oh whoever she was talking to didn't work out now she's onto me"

Whatever, I didn't care. We have a lot of the same interests, she's cute, all that good stuff. We chat for a day or two, I lasted texted her the night before with no response, it happens. So I text her again the next day of a relevant picture to our previous convo, still no response. She works in the medical field so she said she has been busy, so I didn't think much of it. So that night I decided I would just straight up ask her to meet up sometime, mostly because I don't enjoy getting to know someone over text.

No response. So another day passes, just reached out to her and just said I hope I wasn't being too forward or anything. Get a very long text back about how I was overwhelming (I sent maybe 2 texts without a response), but normally it wouldn't be because she is just so busy currently, which I totally get. She did however, agree that we should meet up to see if we vibe. I texted her back, said I totally get it, I'm ready whenever she feels comfortable.

Fast forward another 5 days or so, I texted her to see what she was up to to see if maybe she would want to meet up.

No response.

I guess now my question is, do I continue trying? Or just keep waiting. I'd really like to give it a try between us, but I'm getting mixed signals. Also don't want to be too needy with things either. I just find it so odd that she would be the one to reach back out to me, show interest, and then just basically ghost me after a day or two of small talk when she said she wanted to meet up.

In the past I know I have gone overboard with the texts, but I do not think that was the case this time. Just really conflicted on whether or not to reach out again, but really want to. ( This was not short I know)

Thanks all.



Submitted August 29, 2021 at 11:53PM

I'll try to keep this as short as possible.I matched with a girl on Hinged about 2-3 weeks ago. We chatted for a day or so and I gave her my number. Never got a text. Oh well, onto the next one.Fast forward about 2.5 weeks, I get a text from her asking how I was and that she was sorry she didn't reach out sooner. First thought in my head was "oh whoever she was talking to didn't work out now she's onto me"Whatever, I didn't care. We have a lot of the same interests, she's cute, all that good stuff. We chat for a day or two, I lasted texted her the night before with no response, it happens. So I text her again the next day of a relevant picture to our previous convo, still no response. She works in the medical field so she said she has been busy, so I didn't think much of it. So that night I decided I would just straight up ask her to meet up sometime, mostly because I don't enjoy getting to know someone over text.No response. So another day passes, just reached out to her and just said I hope I wasn't being too forward or anything. Get a very long text back about how I was overwhelming (I sent maybe 2 texts without a response), but normally it wouldn't be because she is just so busy currently, which I totally get. She did however, agree that we should meet up to see if we vibe. I texted her back, said I totally get it, I'm ready whenever she feels comfortable.Fast forward another 5 days or so, I texted her to see what she was up to to see if maybe she would want to meet up.No response.I guess now my question is, do I continue trying? Or just keep waiting. I'd really like to give it a try between us, but I'm getting mixed signals. Also don't want to be too needy with things either. I just find it so odd that she would be the one to reach back out to me, show interest, and then just basically ghost me after a day or two of small talk when she said she wanted to meet up.In the past I know I have gone overboard with the texts, but I do not think that was the case this time. Just really conflicted on whether or not to reach out again, but really want to. ( This was not short I know)Thanks all.
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