How do I get in contact again?

So I know a girl whom I went to school with almost 7 years ago. Back then I didn't think anything of her, because I was 12 - 16 (4 years in the same class) and maybe a bit childish. Saw her last year in a club before covid, and something just clicked in me. I've had those feelings more than once, especially when there's alcohol, but that time it was different. We talked a bit, were a bit touchy, complimented each other; it wasn't awkward. Then her friends decided to leave, so she went with them. I thought that it was nothing because I've felt that way before and thought that that feeling will probably go away, but here we are, 16 months later and I still feel "it".

Through the years I've lost her phone number and I've been inactive on IG since 2012, so I really don't have a normal way to communicate with her. DMing her all of a sudden via IG is weird (especially with my dead profile) and you can't convince me otherwise lol.

Anyway, I know a girl who I was very good friends with when we were 12 years old, but we sadly never stayed in contact, until the beginning of 2020 where we had planned a reunion with other former classmates, but then covid hit and those plans were canceled and everything went silent again. This girl is friends with the other girl.

So heres my idea: I'm going to contact my old friend and ask her if she wants to grab a drink or something. Once we're there we just have a good time and catch up with each other. After a while I'll ask her if she's still friends with said girl, and if she says yes, to invite her the next time. And from there get the ball rolling.

Also, I want to clarify that I'm not just using this girl as a stepping stone to get to the other girl. I really want to reconnect with her, and her being a friend to the other girl is a big bonus.

I really can't get her out of my head so I just have to try even if she doesn't feel the same way, at least I can move on.

What do you think about this idea, and do you maybe have a better idea?



Submitted August 30, 2021 at 12:14AM

So I know a girl whom I went to school with almost 7 years ago. Back then I didn't think anything of her, because I was 12 - 16 (4 years in the same class) and maybe a bit childish. Saw her last year in a club before covid, and something just clicked in me. I've had those feelings more than once, especially when there's alcohol, but that time it was different. We talked a bit, were a bit touchy, complimented each other; it wasn't awkward. Then her friends decided to leave, so she went with them. I thought that it was nothing because I've felt that way before and thought that that feeling will probably go away, but here we are, 16 months later and I still feel "it".Through the years I've lost her phone number and I've been inactive on IG since 2012, so I really don't have a normal way to communicate with her. DMing her all of a sudden via IG is weird (especially with my dead profile) and you can't convince me otherwise lol.Anyway, I know a girl who I was very good friends with when we were 12 years old, but we sadly never stayed in contact, until the beginning of 2020 where we had planned a reunion with other former classmates, but then covid hit and those plans were canceled and everything went silent again. This girl is friends with the other girl.So heres my idea: I'm going to contact my old friend and ask her if she wants to grab a drink or something. Once we're there we just have a good time and catch up with each other. After a while I'll ask her if she's still friends with said girl, and if she says yes, to invite her the next time. And from there get the ball rolling.Also, I want to clarify that I'm not just using this girl as a stepping stone to get to the other girl. I really want to reconnect with her, and her being a friend to the other girl is a big bonus.I really can't get her out of my head so I just have to try even if she doesn't feel the same way, at least I can move on.What do you think about this idea, and do you maybe have a better idea?
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