Would it be weird to ask out a girl that I went on a few dates with in the past again?

A few months ago I started seeing this girl and things were going really well. We talked a lot and would go out for dinner during the week and then we'd hang out every weekend and we could talk to each other for hours with no lull in the conversation and this lasted for about a month.

Then things started picking up for her at work, scheduling dates got harder, and it kind of felt like she was blowing me off. In hindsight I don't think that was her intention and she was genuinely busy. Regretfully, I sent a poorly worded text to her just saying that I really liked her, but I was kind of annoyed that she cancelled on me two days in a row with such short notice.

That really upset her so I apologized and she said she wasn't mad at me, but she was just really overwhelmed with everything going on in her life and she just felt confused in general. We talked here and there over the next few days and then she texted me saying that she wasn't in the right place for a relationship right now. I said I was disappointed, but I understood and I didn't want things to be weird between us moving forward.

We still see each other occasionally because we have mutual friends and we're both friendly with each other and the other day I got the urge to try and reconnect with her since things have slowed down for her. Would it be weird if I asked her to grab drinks and catch up sometime? I don't want to put her in an awkward situation since we have mutual friends. Any advice would be much appreciated.



Submitted January 02, 2021 at 12:17AM

A few months ago I started seeing this girl and things were going really well. We talked a lot and would go out for dinner during the week and then we'd hang out every weekend and we could talk to each other for hours with no lull in the conversation and this lasted for about a month.Then things started picking up for her at work, scheduling dates got harder, and it kind of felt like she was blowing me off. In hindsight I don't think that was her intention and she was genuinely busy. Regretfully, I sent a poorly worded text to her just saying that I really liked her, but I was kind of annoyed that she cancelled on me two days in a row with such short notice.That really upset her so I apologized and she said she wasn't mad at me, but she was just really overwhelmed with everything going on in her life and she just felt confused in general. We talked here and there over the next few days and then she texted me saying that she wasn't in the right place for a relationship right now. I said I was disappointed, but I understood and I didn't want things to be weird between us moving forward.We still see each other occasionally because we have mutual friends and we're both friendly with each other and the other day I got the urge to try and reconnect with her since things have slowed down for her. Would it be weird if I asked her to grab drinks and catch up sometime? I don't want to put her in an awkward situation since we have mutual friends. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Add Comments, Posts, Links... etc.

Popular posts from this blog

The difference between being right and being understood

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...
Read more

My (27f) gf (27f) is getting tired of me not sharing intimate/ personal info about me

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...
Read more

My (23M) girlfriend (25F) relationship is confusing to me. I might be the problem, or maybe we are just incompatible.

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...
Read more