Was I honestly in the wrong here...?

I'm 22 and been in the Air Force for 3+ years now, been through horrible relationships (got cheated on twice, suffer from depression now also), and was wanting to save my virginity until marriage, but lost it to one of the girls who cheated on me...

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Fast forward 8 months later I run into one of the hottest girls I've seen/met at the gym. Find out she just graduated from the University I am attending (She's 23), and was still around to weigh her career options: She's either moving up North or staying about 1 hr away. In addition, I am getting deployed in about 3 months + heading to training in two weeks to Vegas for 3 weeks... Anyways, she honestly is an incredible girl (She is a virgin, but we did oral). Great family (was in private school her entire life), competed in big pageants, and has great network... With all of this, I felt like I really had something.

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So within 2 weeks I was asking her to take couples pics just to send to my family (she was VERY hesitant, and didn't want me to post), I met her family (we both have family in a city, and I volunteered to stop by to pick something up from her mom since she couldn't at the time, had her meet my best guy friends, and parents + sisters. My entire family LOVED her, like my mom and sisters adored her... However, last week Tuesday, 3 days before Christmas, we had dinner with my parents (mom even got her a lot of gifts), and went back to her apartment and exchanged gifts (I spent $100+ on hers), we made out, she gave me a bj (we had done oral/ had 3 sleepovers before), and after I asked her if I could cum on her, and she goes, "No, we're not there yet at all, and honestly I feel like we should slow down before we make it official (we already talked about how we were exclusive)".

So I proceeded to tell her how I feel like we have been bickering for it to be on 3 weeks of dating and I feel like I have to walk on egg shells with her + I told her I don't like her babying me by putting my tag down (I feel like it's too mothering, and belittling to me). She literally went cold, didn't even fight for it, at ALL. Told me I could keep her gift, and she then walked me out the door. I later texted her that night telling her how I still think she is incredible, no response at all



Submitted January 01, 2021 at 11:41PM

I'm 22 and been in the Air Force for 3+ years now, been through horrible relationships (got cheated on twice, suffer from depression now also), and was wanting to save my virginity until marriage, but lost it to one of the girls who cheated on me...​Fast forward 8 months later I run into one of the hottest girls I've seen/met at the gym. Find out she just graduated from the University I am attending (She's 23), and was still around to weigh her career options: She's either moving up North or staying about 1 hr away. In addition, I am getting deployed in about 3 months + heading to training in two weeks to Vegas for 3 weeks... Anyways, she honestly is an incredible girl (She is a virgin, but we did oral). Great family (was in private school her entire life), competed in big pageants, and has great network... With all of this, I felt like I really had something.​So within 2 weeks I was asking her to take couples pics just to send to my family (she was VERY hesitant, and didn't want me to post), I met her family (we both have family in a city, and I volunteered to stop by to pick something up from her mom since she couldn't at the time, had her meet my best guy friends, and parents + sisters. My entire family LOVED her, like my mom and sisters adored her... However, last week Tuesday, 3 days before Christmas, we had dinner with my parents (mom even got her a lot of gifts), and went back to her apartment and exchanged gifts (I spent $100+ on hers), we made out, she gave me a bj (we had done oral/ had 3 sleepovers before), and after I asked her if I could cum on her, and she goes, "No, we're not there yet at all, and honestly I feel like we should slow down before we make it official (we already talked about how we were exclusive)".So I proceeded to tell her how I feel like we have been bickering for it to be on 3 weeks of dating and I feel like I have to walk on egg shells with her + I told her I don't like her babying me by putting my tag down (I feel like it's too mothering, and belittling to me). She literally went cold, didn't even fight for it, at ALL. Told me I could keep her gift, and she then walked me out the door. I later texted her that night telling her how I still think she is incredible, no response at all
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