I'm into my co-worker

I (29F) am into my co-worker (29M) but I feel like I'm getting shut down anytime I try.

So the backstory is that I actually kinda sorta knew this guy in University. We had classes together but we never really talked. I always thought he was cute and wanted to make a move on him but he seemed quiet and it was impossible to befriend him. Anyway, after we graduated, I didn't see him ever again.

Fast forward to now: I recently started a new job and he works there too! He seems pretty cool but he doesn't socialize with work people so it's kinda hard to get to know him. He seems kinda quiet and but we've had some great conversations. We seem to have a lot in common and I want to get to know him better. I was busy with a big project and I told myself I'd ask him out after it was over but then covid happened, the project was postponed, and we haven't been able to talk since we work remotely now.

I've texted him here and there but it's always me initiating. He's always friendly, never rude, never ignores me, but I'm still paranoid he's trying to politely hint that he's not interested in me. When we started working remotely, I asked if he wanted to do coffee chats one-on-one and he shut it down because he just wants to get his work done. He never attends work social events so this makes sense but I don't know how to break the co-worker relationship we have.

I recently asked him to video chat again and he said yes. It was going fine and 10 mins in, he had to go abruptly :(

I still want to just make a move or at least get to know him better. Should I and how?

PS. I know he's dated a coworker before so I don't think he's against it. He also told me he used to have a very active social life at work but all his close friends left and he's just changed his mentality.

TL;DR: I am into my co-worker but don't know how to test the waters/make a move while working remotely. I'm also worried he's sending me signals that he wants to keep it platonic but I'm brushing them off as him not liking to socialize with coworkers.



Submitted May 01, 2020 at 11:52PM

I (29F) am into my co-worker (29M) but I feel like I'm getting shut down anytime I try.So the backstory is that I actually kinda sorta knew this guy in University. We had classes together but we never really talked. I always thought he was cute and wanted to make a move on him but he seemed quiet and it was impossible to befriend him. Anyway, after we graduated, I didn't see him ever again.Fast forward to now: I recently started a new job and he works there too! He seems pretty cool but he doesn't socialize with work people so it's kinda hard to get to know him. He seems kinda quiet and but we've had some great conversations. We seem to have a lot in common and I want to get to know him better. I was busy with a big project and I told myself I'd ask him out after it was over but then covid happened, the project was postponed, and we haven't been able to talk since we work remotely now.I've texted him here and there but it's always me initiating. He's always friendly, never rude, never ignores me, but I'm still paranoid he's trying to politely hint that he's not interested in me. When we started working remotely, I asked if he wanted to do coffee chats one-on-one and he shut it down because he just wants to get his work done. He never attends work social events so this makes sense but I don't know how to break the co-worker relationship we have.I recently asked him to video chat again and he said yes. It was going fine and 10 mins in, he had to go abruptly :(I still want to just make a move or at least get to know him better. Should I and how?PS. I know he's dated a coworker before so I don't think he's against it. He also told me he used to have a very active social life at work but all his close friends left and he's just changed his mentality.TL;DR: I am into my co-worker but don't know how to test the waters/make a move while working remotely. I'm also worried he's sending me signals that he wants to keep it platonic but I'm brushing them off as him not liking to socialize with coworkers.
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