Female orgasm troubles

I'm 20f my bf is 22. It's easy for me to cum by masterbating, and my ex got me off everytime we had sex via oral. I've never cum from piv

My current bf of 1.5 years has finally learned how to make me cum. He's done it twice with his fingers and once with his mouth. His libido is lower than mine so I often struggle with the thought of sex not being as important to him. Recently he hasn't been getting me off. He will finger me prior to sex and then give up after a few minutes. It's really frustrating for me to have sex and not get a release. Rolling over and masterbating after sex puts me in a foul mood, like my orgasm doesn't matter.

I expressed this to him in a loving way and he said he'd keep it in mind, but sometimes he "wants to move on to other things" (have sex and stop trying to get me to cum). He's also just not a fan of oral in general, which sucks because I love being eaten out.

I don't know what to do at this point. I don't even feel like having sex with him anymore because it feels like it starts and ends with his orgasm and mine is not a priority at all. Sometimes it takes me 10-20 minutes to get off, I know that's a while and I don't expect to cum all the time. Maybe like a third of the time!

The fact that he said he doesn't feel like doing it for long puts a huge mental block on me. My ex made me cum so easily because I knew he loved it and I knew I was a priority and not a burden. Now it's going to be harder for me to cum with my bf because I'm never going to be able to stop thinking about that comment, and how he doesn't want to be getting me off and would rather be doing something else. It's very important for me to be relaxed and comfortable to cum

Not sure what to do from here

Submitted May 02, 2020 at 01:23AM

I'm 20f my bf is 22. It's easy for me to cum by masterbating, and my ex got me off everytime we had sex via oral. I've never cum from pivMy current bf of 1.5 years has finally learned how to make me cum. He's done it twice with his fingers and once with his mouth. His libido is lower than mine so I often struggle with the thought of sex not being as important to him. Recently he hasn't been getting me off. He will finger me prior to sex and then give up after a few minutes. It's really frustrating for me to have sex and not get a release. Rolling over and masterbating after sex puts me in a foul mood, like my orgasm doesn't matter.I expressed this to him in a loving way and he said he'd keep it in mind, but sometimes he "wants to move on to other things" (have sex and stop trying to get me to cum). He's also just not a fan of oral in general, which sucks because I love being eaten out.I don't know what to do at this point. I don't even feel like having sex with him anymore because it feels like it starts and ends with his orgasm and mine is not a priority at all. Sometimes it takes me 10-20 minutes to get off, I know that's a while and I don't expect to cum all the time. Maybe like a third of the time!The fact that he said he doesn't feel like doing it for long puts a huge mental block on me. My ex made me cum so easily because I knew he loved it and I knew I was a priority and not a burden. Now it's going to be harder for me to cum with my bf because I'm never going to be able to stop thinking about that comment, and how he doesn't want to be getting me off and would rather be doing something else. It's very important for me to be relaxed and comfortable to cumNot sure what to do from here