Very confused with husbands kink...

I tried posting this earlier but it got taken down, hopefully it works out this time.

So for starters, I made a throwaway account to post this as I would rather my sex life and personal life be different. Also, sorry if this is really long. I am 28f and my husband is 33m. We have been married for 3 years.

The other day, while lying in bed my husband asked to have a serious chat with me about something that’s been on his mind. Of course I accepted it and listened to what he had to say.

We’ve always been open about sex with each other. Our sex life is still very active and even though it isn’t the best sex I’ve ever had, our intimacy still makes it amazing!

He said that he has a kink/fantasy that he wants me to know about. I said “ok, what is it?” Thinking it would be something along the lines of anal or bdsm etc. But he was very timid in talking about it and he was beating around the bush by saying things like “I don’t want you to think of me differently after I tell you this” and what not. I reassured that nothing would change how I think of him and how much I love him.

He finally told me what his kink was and it caught me off guard. He said he his fantasy is that he wants me to CHEAT ON HIM. He said he doesn’t want to know about anything going on with it just that he wants me to date and sleep with others.

So I had no idea what to say. I asked for time to think about it and he said that’s fine. The problem is that the more and more I think about it, the more the idea turns me on. And I feel like a horrible wife for being turned on by the idea of cheating on my amazing husband.

What do I do?

Does anyone else have this kink/had this kink confessed to them?

I need help!



Submitted April 18, 2020 at 12:17AM

I tried posting this earlier but it got taken down, hopefully it works out this time.So for starters, I made a throwaway account to post this as I would rather my sex life and personal life be different. Also, sorry if this is really long. I am 28f and my husband is 33m. We have been married for 3 years.The other day, while lying in bed my husband asked to have a serious chat with me about something that’s been on his mind. Of course I accepted it and listened to what he had to say.We’ve always been open about sex with each other. Our sex life is still very active and even though it isn’t the best sex I’ve ever had, our intimacy still makes it amazing!He said that he has a kink/fantasy that he wants me to know about. I said “ok, what is it?” Thinking it would be something along the lines of anal or bdsm etc. But he was very timid in talking about it and he was beating around the bush by saying things like “I don’t want you to think of me differently after I tell you this” and what not. I reassured that nothing would change how I think of him and how much I love him.He finally told me what his kink was and it caught me off guard. He said he his fantasy is that he wants me to CHEAT ON HIM. He said he doesn’t want to know about anything going on with it just that he wants me to date and sleep with others.So I had no idea what to say. I asked for time to think about it and he said that’s fine. The problem is that the more and more I think about it, the more the idea turns me on. And I feel like a horrible wife for being turned on by the idea of cheating on my amazing husband.What do I do?Does anyone else have this kink/had this kink confessed to them?I need help!
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