Is what I’m feeling sexual attraction?

For some background I am 22 F and growing up I always knew I liked guys, romantically and sexually, but it would take a while for feelings to build and most of my crushes were towards celebs and characters until I got a little older. However, a throw away comment made by a ‘friend’ made me worried that I was asexual (nothing wrong with that of course). But basically I don’t look at random guys and think, I want to have sex with them or get aroused by guys I don’t know. So this made me question my attractions a lot and sent me into a panic. I am now in my first serious relationship with a guy who I’ve known for a year or so, and who is a bit older than me. When we first met I knew that I was interested in him as a person, and then we began going on dates and slowly getting to know each other. I began to like him romantically and then started fantasising about having sex with him and doing sexual things. This would make me feel all tingly and stuff. Sometimes when we are together and sit beside one another I feel aroused too. We sext sometimes, and I sometimes get into it but on other occasions not so much. I wouldn’t say I have a particularly high sex drive either. But for me, I’d define sexual attraction as thinking about having sex with the person and liking the idea, but I also don’t always get aroused/horny thinking about it. Does this sound like sexual attraction? Is this similar to anyone else’s experience?

Submitted April 17, 2020 at 11:48PM

For some background I am 22 F and growing up I always knew I liked guys, romantically and sexually, but it would take a while for feelings to build and most of my crushes were towards celebs and characters until I got a little older. However, a throw away comment made by a ‘friend’ made me worried that I was asexual (nothing wrong with that of course). But basically I don’t look at random guys and think, I want to have sex with them or get aroused by guys I don’t know. So this made me question my attractions a lot and sent me into a panic. I am now in my first serious relationship with a guy who I’ve known for a year or so, and who is a bit older than me. When we first met I knew that I was interested in him as a person, and then we began going on dates and slowly getting to know each other. I began to like him romantically and then started fantasising about having sex with him and doing sexual things. This would make me feel all tingly and stuff. Sometimes when we are together and sit beside one another I feel aroused too. We sext sometimes, and I sometimes get into it but on other occasions not so much. I wouldn’t say I have a particularly high sex drive either. But for me, I’d define sexual attraction as thinking about having sex with the person and liking the idea, but I also don’t always get aroused/horny thinking about it. Does this sound like sexual attraction? Is this similar to anyone else’s experience?