I (17m) struggle with my girlfriend(17)during quarantine

I(17) stuggle to keep a bond with my mostly girlfriend (17) due to the quarantine.

So i live in France and there is a girl wich wich i am very close to everything before thé quarantine was going well. I think we talked to much to eachother, and used eachother as an escape for boredom and this lead to our bond weakening. One day she disapeared for a few days and when she came back she said she has no feelings and was stupid to think it would work . I was really confused because weeks earlier she still made plans for a common future. At that Time she would get really mad at me, and said she dissapeared for two days to show me and make me understand. We kinda talked a lot but it was more arguing because she clearly wasnt in her normal state. Despite her saying she had no feelings she wanted friendship with me wich she described as « same as before but without sexual stuff » wich to me was confusing because i felt like all those things where just extras and our intimacy was thé core of our relationship but she was mad so we didnt really do much talking and just cried while calling eachother i just felt so hurt and she felt really bad for hurting me, really really bad and was accusing herself of Being a terrible person and i felt bad for her and for causing this. Once the dust settled i went to her and really told her everything i had on my Hearth ( a lot) about how i felt about the whole situation and how i felt like she wanted to take my love without giving anything in return and how i felt used and all sort of things. Afterwards she texted me apologising a lot and didnt think i would answer i felt so bad seing her feeling so bad about herself and that if i wanted one day she would still be there. I told her i loved her and would not leave her for this( the word love was a big issue in our relationship)so i told her the only thing i wanted is that she took me too. She still wanted to be friends i told her that those feelings couldnt be gone so easly even less when she wanted to keep thé most intimate moments that we had so she asked me What do we do ? So i really tought a lot and i came up with the realisation that a relationship was sometimes hard to maintain a bond, especially when esperared from eachother but that we shouldnt give up because we where both very happy before this situation. So she asked me for an alternative and i think thé problem came from a few things, first i think we talked to eachother to much and more as a meand to escape boredom , rendering the moments together meaningless we would often call eachother for hours and often do something else i also know she doesnt want to spend too much Time on her phone , and due to me that Time increased a lot so i proposed that we talk less and focus on making thé moments we have meaninfull so she would have more Time to focus on herself and less on her phone makes me kinda sad that i wont see her around that often anymore i also said that it will be a lot of work because currently we arent allowed to go outside and to school. We just dont Have anything to talk about anymore. I also said that it would be sad to give up. After all this she wanted concrete answers but i didnt really know so i evaded with a lot of work from us and that we need to talk about this together and that it cant be done carelessly i feel like creating something new to share is way harder than to just share What we live every day , especially when we cant step a foot outside After all this she said she thinks like me and that she is very happy and thanked me produisent and apologised again for Being mean to me. Some things that happened those days really hit me hard but i really want this to work out with her i asked her to talk about those problems together before she escalates to those States. I already saw that she wasnt feeling well about something before but only réalised now i also apologised a lot because i was also mean to her. She just said that we Forget about everything we both did.

So now i ask, did i do the right thing ?didnt i maybe shocked her to much and disrespeted her opinion ? i feel bad about it but we where really happy together.Many friends and familiy told me to let her be a bit and see if she comes back. Any tipps on making our Time together more meaningfull ? I just know that i am very happy that it turned out that way and that we managed to understand eachother again I apologise for my poor english as i am from France.

Tldr : distance gave us struggles and we try to get through this . How to make our Time more meaningfull ?

Submitted April 04, 2020 at 12:05AM

I(17) stuggle to keep a bond with my mostly girlfriend (17) due to the quarantine.So i live in France and there is a girl wich wich i am very close to everything before thé quarantine was going well. I think we talked to much to eachother, and used eachother as an escape for boredom and this lead to our bond weakening. One day she disapeared for a few days and when she came back she said she has no feelings and was stupid to think it would work . I was really confused because weeks earlier she still made plans for a common future. At that Time she would get really mad at me, and said she dissapeared for two days to show me and make me understand. We kinda talked a lot but it was more arguing because she clearly wasnt in her normal state. Despite her saying she had no feelings she wanted friendship with me wich she described as « same as before but without sexual stuff » wich to me was confusing because i felt like all those things where just extras and our intimacy was thé core of our relationship but she was mad so we didnt really do much talking and just cried while calling eachother i just felt so hurt and she felt really bad for hurting me, really really bad and was accusing herself of Being a terrible person and i felt bad for her and for causing this. Once the dust settled i went to her and really told her everything i had on my Hearth ( a lot) about how i felt about the whole situation and how i felt like she wanted to take my love without giving anything in return and how i felt used and all sort of things. Afterwards she texted me apologising a lot and didnt think i would answer i felt so bad seing her feeling so bad about herself and that if i wanted one day she would still be there. I told her i loved her and would not leave her for this( the word love was a big issue in our relationship)so i told her the only thing i wanted is that she took me too. She still wanted to be friends i told her that those feelings couldnt be gone so easly even less when she wanted to keep thé most intimate moments that we had so she asked me What do we do ? So i really tought a lot and i came up with the realisation that a relationship was sometimes hard to maintain a bond, especially when esperared from eachother but that we shouldnt give up because we where both very happy before this situation. So she asked me for an alternative and i think thé problem came from a few things, first i think we talked to eachother to much and more as a meand to escape boredom , rendering the moments together meaningless we would often call eachother for hours and often do something else i also know she doesnt want to spend too much Time on her phone , and due to me that Time increased a lot so i proposed that we talk less and focus on making thé moments we have meaninfull so she would have more Time to focus on herself and less on her phone makes me kinda sad that i wont see her around that often anymore i also said that it will be a lot of work because currently we arent allowed to go outside and to school. We just dont Have anything to talk about anymore. I also said that it would be sad to give up. After all this she wanted concrete answers but i didnt really know so i evaded with a lot of work from us and that we need to talk about this together and that it cant be done carelessly i feel like creating something new to share is way harder than to just share What we live every day , especially when we cant step a foot outside After all this she said she thinks like me and that she is very happy and thanked me produisent and apologised again for Being mean to me. Some things that happened those days really hit me hard but i really want this to work out with her i asked her to talk about those problems together before she escalates to those States. I already saw that she wasnt feeling well about something before but only réalised now i also apologised a lot because i was also mean to her. She just said that we Forget about everything we both did.So now i ask, did i do the right thing ?didnt i maybe shocked her to much and disrespeted her opinion ? i feel bad about it but we where really happy together.Many friends and familiy told me to let her be a bit and see if she comes back. Any tipps on making our Time together more meaningfull ? I just know that i am very happy that it turned out that way and that we managed to understand eachother again I apologise for my poor english as i am from France.Tldr : distance gave us struggles and we try to get through this . How to make our Time more meaningfull ?