My (23F) boyfriend (27M) keeps hinting that he wants to move in together. How soon is too soon to make a big decision like this?

We’ve been dating since last August. We fell in love very quickly and both make each other very happy. Over the weekend, I was spending some time with his mum and the topic of past relationships came up, she expressed to me how grateful she was that I had met her son and how she hasn’t seen him this happy in an extremely long time.

Before me, my boyfriend had two serious but very tumultuous relationships. Both girlfriends treated him very poorly and caused him a lot of emotional pain - he suffered from very bad depression/anxiety. When we first met, he was very open and honest about his troubles - he told me that he feared telling me would cause me to run, but hiding it from me would only cause larger problems in the future. I assured him that it was nothing to be ashamed of and that I wanted to try and make it work, despite his personal battles. We continued seeing each other and I begun to see a difference in him - he thanked me endlessly for making him feel so good about himself and expressed to me how much I had changed his life.

Through all this, I feel as though we have overcome some pretty big obstacles with ease and that we can easily ‘go the distance’. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and know that he is 100% the man I want to someday marry etc. I know he feels the same and that he appreciates me more than I will ever understand.

Over the long weekend, we stayed at his parents holiday house for 4 nights. This was our second trip there in the past month and we always have a lot of fun when we are there. Yesterday morning, he woke up and was giving me a hug when I said, “the last morning always sucks because it means I won’t get to wake up next to you tomorrow”. He then kissed my forehead and said, “well, you know I’d love for you to move in with me. The offer is always there, whenever you’re ready”. He has been saying this for the past month - whenever we stay the night together he will say things like, “imagine getting to do this everyday” etc. The thing is, as crazy as this sounds, I feel like I am essentially ready to move in with him. I know it’s a big step, but I feel like we have already overcome so much together that living with each other is definitely the logical next move.

He’s planning to take me overseas for a week for my birthday in June - if that goes well, I feel like I may really consider the idea of living together and moving in with him.

Redditors, how soon is too soon to move in with a SO? What do I need to know before I make this life changing decision? Is there anything we need to experience together before we take this step?

I’d love to hear your stories/opinions on the matter!

TIA :)

TLDR; my boyfriend wants me to move in with him after just 6 months of dating. As crazy as it is, I feel like I’m ready. Are we jumping the gun too soon?

Submitted January 28, 2020 at 12:19AM

We’ve been dating since last August. We fell in love very quickly and both make each other very happy. Over the weekend, I was spending some time with his mum and the topic of past relationships came up, she expressed to me how grateful she was that I had met her son and how she hasn’t seen him this happy in an extremely long time.Before me, my boyfriend had two serious but very tumultuous relationships. Both girlfriends treated him very poorly and caused him a lot of emotional pain - he suffered from very bad depression/anxiety. When we first met, he was very open and honest about his troubles - he told me that he feared telling me would cause me to run, but hiding it from me would only cause larger problems in the future. I assured him that it was nothing to be ashamed of and that I wanted to try and make it work, despite his personal battles. We continued seeing each other and I begun to see a difference in him - he thanked me endlessly for making him feel so good about himself and expressed to me how much I had changed his life.Through all this, I feel as though we have overcome some pretty big obstacles with ease and that we can easily ‘go the distance’. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and know that he is 100% the man I want to someday marry etc. I know he feels the same and that he appreciates me more than I will ever understand.Over the long weekend, we stayed at his parents holiday house for 4 nights. This was our second trip there in the past month and we always have a lot of fun when we are there. Yesterday morning, he woke up and was giving me a hug when I said, “the last morning always sucks because it means I won’t get to wake up next to you tomorrow”. He then kissed my forehead and said, “well, you know I’d love for you to move in with me. The offer is always there, whenever you’re ready”. He has been saying this for the past month - whenever we stay the night together he will say things like, “imagine getting to do this everyday” etc. The thing is, as crazy as this sounds, I feel like I am essentially ready to move in with him. I know it’s a big step, but I feel like we have already overcome so much together that living with each other is definitely the logical next move.He’s planning to take me overseas for a week for my birthday in June - if that goes well, I feel like I may really consider the idea of living together and moving in with him.Redditors, how soon is too soon to move in with a SO? What do I need to know before I make this life changing decision? Is there anything we need to experience together before we take this step?I’d love to hear your stories/opinions on the matter!TIA :)TLDR; my boyfriend wants me to move in with him after just 6 months of dating. As crazy as it is, I feel like I’m ready. Are we jumping the gun too soon?