My [21M] crush and ex best friend [21F] hates me out of nowhere

I met this girl in college , she was nice, smart and very fun, we started to be very good friends. Since i was quite good in some subjects i helped my friends studying, i have never said no to anybody who asked me for help, and she would ask me for help very often before the exams. We were studying mainly alone when the lessons ended in college, and during this time i got to know her better. Long story short, very similar background to mine, never got a lot of friends, bullied at school and also quite insecure. After some months we became best friends and i am beginning to fell in love with her. Now she had a boyfriend at the time who was very abusive, he had all of her passwords, never allowed her to go out with anybody or even texing anybody. At that point we were very attached, i knew her situation and i helped her when she was at the lowest, during the rest of the year she always asked me to sit next to her in class, on the bus, asking me to study with her and all that kind of stuff. A year passes and during the summer holidays we did not met up, part of it vas because of her bf and another part was because she took a very long holiday. When we returned to college for our second i noticed that she is acting in a very disrespectful way towards me, always making me feel uncomfortable, ignoring me or having passive-aggressive behaviors towards me. After months of me trying to understand what’s going on she replied me saying that i was too much around her and that makes her feel uncomfortable. I apologize saying I didn’t knew that and she responded by saying that it was okay and that if i was less around her we could be friends again like before ecc... Few weeks passes and I found myself in one of the worst periods of my life: mental issues caused by my unhappy childhood were tormenting me, my grandmother was not well with her health and my mom was nearly fired from work (she is the only one who works in our family btw). I asked her if we could go out one evening because I wasn’t feeling well and needed some distraction (meanwhile she broke up with her bf but I didn’t knew it). In the mean time i was mainly with other friends, talking to here very few times and respecting her chi ice. Her answer was something like: “i’m sorry it’s not appropriate from you telling me something like that after our last conversation”. Christmas holidays passed and i didn’t talk to her nor i was around her because i was legit angry, yet she still keeps going with the shitty behavior when i am around. I am mad because she was never the most grateful person in the world, never she offered me anything or said more than thanks when i helped her. Now i feel frustrated knowing what type of person she is but the worst part is that i get to see her everyday with her shitty behavior, yet i still kind of like her.

TL:DR best friend who always asked me to be with her complaints after a summer of us not seeing each other she acts like a jerk saying that i am too much around her, after apologizing to her she said f*ck off to me during one of the worst periods of my life, and kept acting like a jerk.

Disclaimer: sorry for my bad English, it’s not my native language

Submitted January 28, 2020 at 12:07AM

I met this girl in college , she was nice, smart and very fun, we started to be very good friends. Since i was quite good in some subjects i helped my friends studying, i have never said no to anybody who asked me for help, and she would ask me for help very often before the exams. We were studying mainly alone when the lessons ended in college, and during this time i got to know her better. Long story short, very similar background to mine, never got a lot of friends, bullied at school and also quite insecure. After some months we became best friends and i am beginning to fell in love with her. Now she had a boyfriend at the time who was very abusive, he had all of her passwords, never allowed her to go out with anybody or even texing anybody. At that point we were very attached, i knew her situation and i helped her when she was at the lowest, during the rest of the year she always asked me to sit next to her in class, on the bus, asking me to study with her and all that kind of stuff. A year passes and during the summer holidays we did not met up, part of it vas because of her bf and another part was because she took a very long holiday. When we returned to college for our second i noticed that she is acting in a very disrespectful way towards me, always making me feel uncomfortable, ignoring me or having passive-aggressive behaviors towards me. After months of me trying to understand what’s going on she replied me saying that i was too much around her and that makes her feel uncomfortable. I apologize saying I didn’t knew that and she responded by saying that it was okay and that if i was less around her we could be friends again like before ecc... Few weeks passes and I found myself in one of the worst periods of my life: mental issues caused by my unhappy childhood were tormenting me, my grandmother was not well with her health and my mom was nearly fired from work (she is the only one who works in our family btw). I asked her if we could go out one evening because I wasn’t feeling well and needed some distraction (meanwhile she broke up with her bf but I didn’t knew it). In the mean time i was mainly with other friends, talking to here very few times and respecting her chi ice. Her answer was something like: “i’m sorry it’s not appropriate from you telling me something like that after our last conversation”. Christmas holidays passed and i didn’t talk to her nor i was around her because i was legit angry, yet she still keeps going with the shitty behavior when i am around. I am mad because she was never the most grateful person in the world, never she offered me anything or said more than thanks when i helped her. Now i feel frustrated knowing what type of person she is but the worst part is that i get to see her everyday with her shitty behavior, yet i still kind of like her.TL:DR best friend who always asked me to be with her complaints after a summer of us not seeing each other she acts like a jerk saying that i am too much around her, after apologizing to her she said f*ck off to me during one of the worst periods of my life, and kept acting like a jerk.Disclaimer: sorry for my bad English, it’s not my native language