My (21m) girlfriend (19f) can be really condescending and rude to me

Xpost from relationship_advice. We met on Tinder. We've only been together for 3 months and she's fun to be around and I really like her, but there are some comments she's made that have kind of thrown me off. On our first date, we were walking around town and she asked if I wanted to stop for bubble tea, and I said sure but that I didn't know what it was. She seemed pretty surprised and asked me how on earth I had never heard of boba. There some are other things that she's wanted to do that I'd also never heard of- we got hot pot for dinner once and it was really good! I ordered a coke and put lots of soy sauce on everything, and she kinda raised her eyebrows when I did this but didn't say anything. Another thing was when we got Chinese food at a restaurant and she told me it was "family style" and I said I didn't know what that meant she asked me, "dude are you serious right now?"

We were talking about our favorite restaurants and I said mine was Longhorne and she kinda laughed and said "yeah, that tracks" even though she likes it there too. A lot of dates she wants to go on are stuff I've never done before like ice skating, learning to snowboard, or rock climbing and I think it's super cool that she's introducing me to all these new things but sometimes I get the feeling she's tired of showing me everything. She also says I'm a "grandma" because I post memes on facebook? Like I didn't know that was weird. There's a lot of random stuff she'll act kinda shocked I didn't know about, like she was ranting about how Chik Fil A sucks and I asked why- she was surprised I didn't know about the "anti-gay stuff" from like 5 years ago. She's made a few jokes about me being "uncultured" and it kinda irritates me cause I could say the same thing for her when it comes to sports teams- she didn't know the Flyers were a hockey team and thought they were baseball. She always says she's just kidding but it feels like she's judging me for not knowing all this. Also she's Asian and I'm white, and I feel like it's unfair cause she grew up around all of this stuff. I just don't really know how to talk to her about it.

tldr; girlfriend teases me for not knowing a lot of stuff about her culture, I feel it's judgemental and rude but she says she's just kidding.

Submitted January 28, 2020 at 12:03AM

Xpost from relationship_advice. We met on Tinder. We've only been together for 3 months and she's fun to be around and I really like her, but there are some comments she's made that have kind of thrown me off. On our first date, we were walking around town and she asked if I wanted to stop for bubble tea, and I said sure but that I didn't know what it was. She seemed pretty surprised and asked me how on earth I had never heard of boba. There some are other things that she's wanted to do that I'd also never heard of- we got hot pot for dinner once and it was really good! I ordered a coke and put lots of soy sauce on everything, and she kinda raised her eyebrows when I did this but didn't say anything. Another thing was when we got Chinese food at a restaurant and she told me it was "family style" and I said I didn't know what that meant she asked me, "dude are you serious right now?"We were talking about our favorite restaurants and I said mine was Longhorne and she kinda laughed and said "yeah, that tracks" even though she likes it there too. A lot of dates she wants to go on are stuff I've never done before like ice skating, learning to snowboard, or rock climbing and I think it's super cool that she's introducing me to all these new things but sometimes I get the feeling she's tired of showing me everything. She also says I'm a "grandma" because I post memes on facebook? Like I didn't know that was weird. There's a lot of random stuff she'll act kinda shocked I didn't know about, like she was ranting about how Chik Fil A sucks and I asked why- she was surprised I didn't know about the "anti-gay stuff" from like 5 years ago. She's made a few jokes about me being "uncultured" and it kinda irritates me cause I could say the same thing for her when it comes to sports teams- she didn't know the Flyers were a hockey team and thought they were baseball. She always says she's just kidding but it feels like she's judging me for not knowing all this. Also she's Asian and I'm white, and I feel like it's unfair cause she grew up around all of this stuff. I just don't really know how to talk to her about it.tldr; girlfriend teases me for not knowing a lot of stuff about her culture, I feel it's judgemental and rude but she says she's just kidding.