I (20F) need some advice on whether or not to tell my dad (44M) that my mom (42F) cheated on him with yet another guy (25M)

So, there’s a lot of history here. I’ll summarize. My mom is a repeat offender. Long story short, my mom told me a couple days after my 18th birthday, against my dads wishes, that she cheated on my dad when they first met (dad knew) and she doesn’t know who my biological father is. My dad raised me my whole life not knowing if I was his or not. Then, two years ago, my mom met and fucked a 23 year old guy. She had a relationship with him, introduced him to her parents, all while still married to my dad. She also had a thing with her old high school sweetheart for a while. My dad is a Christian and refuses to divorce her, says she’s the only woman for him, and he still financially supports her even though they’re separated. He pays for her apartment and her car. He raises my three younger siblings basically by himself now. But that’s not the issue I’m posting about. I got a message earlier today on Facebook from this lady in her 20’s that said “u should tell your mom to not fuck 25 year olds.” I asked her who/what/when/how. She explained that this past summer my mom fucked her boyfriend and this woman is just now finding out. So I apologize to her and she said she was sorry for how shitty my mom is. I agree.. lol.

My question is, should I even bother telling my dad? He’s already depressed, and I know this would make it worse. He refuses to go through her phone or snoop in her private life, for some reason. He’s just that good of a guy. On the other hand, this could also be the straw that breaks the camels back that leads to him finally divorcing her.

But if I tell him, how should I tell him? Should I tell my mom I know?

Tl;dr - mom has whored around my whole life and I just found out today she slept with yet another guy half her age. My dad is super passive and really depressed. Should I tell him, and how do I tell him?



Submitted January 15, 2020 at 11:56PM

So, there’s a lot of history here. I’ll summarize. My mom is a repeat offender. Long story short, my mom told me a couple days after my 18th birthday, against my dads wishes, that she cheated on my dad when they first met (dad knew) and she doesn’t know who my biological father is. My dad raised me my whole life not knowing if I was his or not. Then, two years ago, my mom met and fucked a 23 year old guy. She had a relationship with him, introduced him to her parents, all while still married to my dad. She also had a thing with her old high school sweetheart for a while. My dad is a Christian and refuses to divorce her, says she’s the only woman for him, and he still financially supports her even though they’re separated. He pays for her apartment and her car. He raises my three younger siblings basically by himself now. But that’s not the issue I’m posting about. I got a message earlier today on Facebook from this lady in her 20’s that said “u should tell your mom to not fuck 25 year olds.” I asked her who/what/when/how. She explained that this past summer my mom fucked her boyfriend and this woman is just now finding out. So I apologize to her and she said she was sorry for how shitty my mom is. I agree.. lol.My question is, should I even bother telling my dad? He’s already depressed, and I know this would make it worse. He refuses to go through her phone or snoop in her private life, for some reason. He’s just that good of a guy. On the other hand, this could also be the straw that breaks the camels back that leads to him finally divorcing her.But if I tell him, how should I tell him? Should I tell my mom I know?Tl;dr - mom has whored around my whole life and I just found out today she slept with yet another guy half her age. My dad is super passive and really depressed. Should I tell him, and how do I tell him?
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