GF(27) me(30), I feel I can’t do anything right, she gets extremely irritable, how can I help?

My gf(27) and I(30) have been living together for about 2 years now, there’s been added pressure with things going on, but I feel like I can’t do anything right, everything seems to need slight improvement or I didn’t do something quite right in my gf eyes. And more recently if she has a problem with her laptop or something like that she’s get really frustrated and keep asking me why it’s not working and that I need to fix it for her and drop anything I’m doing, I try to sort it out but sometimes I can’t and she gets really angry and tells me I don’t support her and that she doesn’t know why we’re together. On occasions it’s progressed further and she starts to hit herself or scratch her face. I feel like I’m on eggshells all the time, these episodes can last for hours. I suggested going to the doctors and talking to her about how I feel but she says I’m being too sensitive or argues she doesn’t need this as she has a lot of issues going on. I do try to discuss the issues with her when she calms down although this can trigger her to get angry again, and usually she glosses over it like it wasn’t that bad. When she isn’t like that she is great and we have fun, but in the back of my mind I do worry things will set her off. Any ideas on how best I can help in these situations? TL;DR Gf gets easily annoyed, I feel I can’t do anything right, she occasionally hits and scratches herself when really frustrated. How can I help her if she doesn’t want to get help?

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Submitted January 16, 2020 at 12:03AM

My gf(27) and I(30) have been living together for about 2 years now, there’s been added pressure with things going on, but I feel like I can’t do anything right, everything seems to need slight improvement or I didn’t do something quite right in my gf eyes. And more recently if she has a problem with her laptop or something like that she’s get really frustrated and keep asking me why it’s not working and that I need to fix it for her and drop anything I’m doing, I try to sort it out but sometimes I can’t and she gets really angry and tells me I don’t support her and that she doesn’t know why we’re together. On occasions it’s progressed further and she starts to hit herself or scratch her face. I feel like I’m on eggshells all the time, these episodes can last for hours. I suggested going to the doctors and talking to her about how I feel but she says I’m being too sensitive or argues she doesn’t need this as she has a lot of issues going on. I do try to discuss the issues with her when she calms down although this can trigger her to get angry again, and usually she glosses over it like it wasn’t that bad. When she isn’t like that she is great and we have fun, but in the back of my mind I do worry things will set her off. Any ideas on how best I can help in these situations? TL;DR Gf gets easily annoyed, I feel I can’t do anything right, she occasionally hits and scratches herself when really frustrated. How can I help her if she doesn’t want to get help?Thanks
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