Meeting up with a girl I'd like to date a little later on for lunch tomorrow, really don't want to blank out, tips?

So I (19M) got to know this girl (19F) in uni around early November. We had met earlier (only briefly, never again until early Nov) but both of us developed generally good impressions of each other back then. Starting early November, we started to get to know each other better. We text everyday, and I was really looking forward to hanging out with her a lot more, and eventually maybe even dating her (but I wanted to get to know her much better as a friend first, before asking her out "proper"). But the semester ended early, and we ended up travelling back to our home countries. A few days before leaving, we got drunk along with a few other friends and she told me she really liked hanging out with me and another friend of ours, and we promised to meet each other back in our home city (the two of us live in the same city). Ever since we've returned, we've continued texting everyday but it sometimes (some days) it feels like we just don't have much to talk about, or that the conversation is getting repetitive or dragging on. The couple of times we've met in person back in uni have been a mixed bag - the time we got drunk together was a blast and we were talking on and on, our flight back together we spoke quite a lot too, but the cab ride back (we carpooled from the airport) was dead silent, neither of us said anything to each other (maybe cause we were tired?).

Anyway, we scheduled to meet for lunch tomorrow. I really want to have a lot to talk about, and have some great topics for conversation. I realize that the situation is personal and only I'd know the best things to talk about, but anything at all you could offer would be helpful. I want to set an even better impression of myself in her mind, and any tips you could offer at all would be greatly appreciated.

To reiterate, this is not a date per se, we're only meeting as friends for the time being (she has no idea that I have a crush on her). Her birthday is coming up next month, so my friends (really small group) and I will be planning a surprise for her, and I'm hoping that it further solidifies how she thinks of me. I only plan on asking her out after we hang out a few more times post her birthday.

I'm really sorry this post has been all over the place, but I was really not too sure about how to structure my entire flow of thoughts.

Thank you for reading and helping, all tips are greatly appreciated!



Submitted December 09, 2019 at 11:21PM

So I (19M) got to know this girl (19F) in uni around early November. We had met earlier (only briefly, never again until early Nov) but both of us developed generally good impressions of each other back then. Starting early November, we started to get to know each other better. We text everyday, and I was really looking forward to hanging out with her a lot more, and eventually maybe even dating her (but I wanted to get to know her much better as a friend first, before asking her out "proper"). But the semester ended early, and we ended up travelling back to our home countries. A few days before leaving, we got drunk along with a few other friends and she told me she really liked hanging out with me and another friend of ours, and we promised to meet each other back in our home city (the two of us live in the same city). Ever since we've returned, we've continued texting everyday but it sometimes (some days) it feels like we just don't have much to talk about, or that the conversation is getting repetitive or dragging on. The couple of times we've met in person back in uni have been a mixed bag - the time we got drunk together was a blast and we were talking on and on, our flight back together we spoke quite a lot too, but the cab ride back (we carpooled from the airport) was dead silent, neither of us said anything to each other (maybe cause we were tired?).Anyway, we scheduled to meet for lunch tomorrow. I really want to have a lot to talk about, and have some great topics for conversation. I realize that the situation is personal and only I'd know the best things to talk about, but anything at all you could offer would be helpful. I want to set an even better impression of myself in her mind, and any tips you could offer at all would be greatly appreciated.To reiterate, this is not a date per se, we're only meeting as friends for the time being (she has no idea that I have a crush on her). Her birthday is coming up next month, so my friends (really small group) and I will be planning a surprise for her, and I'm hoping that it further solidifies how she thinks of me. I only plan on asking her out after we hang out a few more times post her birthday.I'm really sorry this post has been all over the place, but I was really not too sure about how to structure my entire flow of thoughts.Thank you for reading and helping, all tips are greatly appreciated!
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