My relationship is failing quick

Hey everyone, A few disclaimers. It's day two of the break and emotions are still a little raw, so please don't hold back the truth but don't try and flame me either. Secondly this is on mobile so please excuse any typos or any poor formatting.

Firstly a little background info:

•We have been dating for nearly a year and a half me(M18) her(f19)

•She went to college during summer about a month after we started, so we had incorporated nightly skype calls lasting an hour or so and texted frequently during the day

•We kept the same routine up through out the past school year, saw eachother on weekends, and now she is back in town for the summer

•She wanted to wait a year before we did anything sexual, and I was more than happy to wait as I truly love her. We began shortly before our one year and being honest the sex life is lacking. No more than twice a month even after she agreed we should try to make it once a week on top of the fact that she has never initiated

•Important side note : My last summer job was an internship allowing me to pretty much text as often as possible as long as I met my organizing quota for the day, during the year I went to this one and only worked weekends, but now I work regularly 25-30 hours a week in fast food, and am already on thin rope with the owner so texting is nearly impossible

Background:

She had mentioned about a month in that we weren't talking as much and wanted to fix that and to my regret now I didn't listen as I should have.

She got a small puppy about half way through summer, which kind of put a damper on how often we could see eachother as I would need to go over to her house instead of trying to split it 50/50 as we typically did. This also caused issues for sleeping over as this dang thing would never stop barking when in its crate at night.

She mentioned shortly after getting the puppy that yet again that our communication was still lacking, but thankfully I listened. I began to text more and attempt to meet her needs. She brought it up once more even though I know I have been texting her much more than before and going over more too. I even began to wake up early to text her when she works her opening shift though I work nights, and then the break.

AITA part:

Now that this break has started I've begun to think that communication isn't our only problem. I've tried bringing up the sex-life issue before and she begins to profusely apologize and get upset. Saying that between work, school and her homelife she's to stressed to do anything, but she has never gotten more into details than that. Have I been the asshole / Will I be an asshole if when this break is over I try and explain to her than I feel her needs are too demanding, and they should be more realistic giving the situation and that if we want this relationship to work we need to both work on these parts and if she can't agree to make change with me to not go back to it? I genuinely love everything else about her and our relationship. From her quirky personality, the way she acts when tired, and our silly dates that we both love. But having this little romance is beginning to affect me, and I don't know how I could manage a relationship where Im not happy with such an important part. I don't even know what else I could do, so any advice that seems relevant or even partially helpfull either on how to fix this or what to do next I will gladly take.

TL;DR : Both communication and the sex-life has been lacking on separate respective parties, and I need to know if I would be in the wrong to bring up that I wont go back unless we both seriously work on fix these things?

Submitted August 04, 2019 at 12:14AM

Hey everyone, A few disclaimers. It's day two of the break and emotions are still a little raw, so please don't hold back the truth but don't try and flame me either. Secondly this is on mobile so please excuse any typos or any poor formatting.Firstly a little background info:•We have been dating for nearly a year and a half me(M18) her(f19)•She went to college during summer about a month after we started, so we had incorporated nightly skype calls lasting an hour or so and texted frequently during the day•We kept the same routine up through out the past school year, saw eachother on weekends, and now she is back in town for the summer•She wanted to wait a year before we did anything sexual, and I was more than happy to wait as I truly love her. We began shortly before our one year and being honest the sex life is lacking. No more than twice a month even after she agreed we should try to make it once a week on top of the fact that she has never initiated•Important side note : My last summer job was an internship allowing me to pretty much text as often as possible as long as I met my organizing quota for the day, during the year I went to this one and only worked weekends, but now I work regularly 25-30 hours a week in fast food, and am already on thin rope with the owner so texting is nearly impossibleBackground:She had mentioned about a month in that we weren't talking as much and wanted to fix that and to my regret now I didn't listen as I should have.She got a small puppy about half way through summer, which kind of put a damper on how often we could see eachother as I would need to go over to her house instead of trying to split it 50/50 as we typically did. This also caused issues for sleeping over as this dang thing would never stop barking when in its crate at night.She mentioned shortly after getting the puppy that yet again that our communication was still lacking, but thankfully I listened. I began to text more and attempt to meet her needs. She brought it up once more even though I know I have been texting her much more than before and going over more too. I even began to wake up early to text her when she works her opening shift though I work nights, and then the break.AITA part:Now that this break has started I've begun to think that communication isn't our only problem. I've tried bringing up the sex-life issue before and she begins to profusely apologize and get upset. Saying that between work, school and her homelife she's to stressed to do anything, but she has never gotten more into details than that. Have I been the asshole / Will I be an asshole if when this break is over I try and explain to her than I feel her needs are too demanding, and they should be more realistic giving the situation and that if we want this relationship to work we need to both work on these parts and if she can't agree to make change with me to not go back to it? I genuinely love everything else about her and our relationship. From her quirky personality, the way she acts when tired, and our silly dates that we both love. But having this little romance is beginning to affect me, and I don't know how I could manage a relationship where Im not happy with such an important part. I don't even know what else I could do, so any advice that seems relevant or even partially helpfull either on how to fix this or what to do next I will gladly take.TL;DR : Both communication and the sex-life has been lacking on separate respective parties, and I need to know if I would be in the wrong to bring up that I wont go back unless we both seriously work on fix these things?