My bf (m24) thinks I (f20) don’t care about him. How do I change that?

I’ve never posted before but here I go, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. He’s super supportive, kind, and thoughtful. I care about him very deeply and I express it often. But I’ve made some mistakes.

When we first started dating he bought me his favorite book to read and it took me a year to finish it. He once bought me a bus ticket to see him at school and I had a crazy morning and missed the bus (it was my fault but it wasn’t just because I didn’t want to make it, things happened). Most recently, he asked me to come to the gym with him (he loves working out) and I accidentally fell asleep when it was time to see him (something I’ve never done before). He thinks I don’t care about him or his interests.

And it’s true, it doesn’t look like it. But I actually do care about him and the things he cares about.

But I’m interested in art and writing and I never expect him to like the things I like cause it doesn’t bother me that we have different interests. Like i’d love for him to tell me a story of a football game or who’s winning or losing cause he cares about it, but I didnt realize I also had to get into football. I think we just have different expectations for relationships and I want to adjust my behavior accordingly. I can see that this is important to him so I want to make an effort and do something to help him realize how much he means to me.

What are some things I can do to show I care? Should I learn all about football and surprise him? Should I watch one of his favorite shows that he showed me (about football)? Should I read the sequel to his book?

Is their any repairing the damage that I’ve caused? I truly love him so much and I want to be a better girlfriend so I’d appreciate all advice. Have you ever been in a similar situation, what did you do?

Tl;dr! I didn’t put in effort to show I care about boyfriend’s interests and I don’t know how to fix it

Submitted August 03, 2019 at 11:40PM

I’ve never posted before but here I go, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. He’s super supportive, kind, and thoughtful. I care about him very deeply and I express it often. But I’ve made some mistakes.When we first started dating he bought me his favorite book to read and it took me a year to finish it. He once bought me a bus ticket to see him at school and I had a crazy morning and missed the bus (it was my fault but it wasn’t just because I didn’t want to make it, things happened). Most recently, he asked me to come to the gym with him (he loves working out) and I accidentally fell asleep when it was time to see him (something I’ve never done before). He thinks I don’t care about him or his interests.And it’s true, it doesn’t look like it. But I actually do care about him and the things he cares about.But I’m interested in art and writing and I never expect him to like the things I like cause it doesn’t bother me that we have different interests. Like i’d love for him to tell me a story of a football game or who’s winning or losing cause he cares about it, but I didnt realize I also had to get into football. I think we just have different expectations for relationships and I want to adjust my behavior accordingly. I can see that this is important to him so I want to make an effort and do something to help him realize how much he means to me.What are some things I can do to show I care? Should I learn all about football and surprise him? Should I watch one of his favorite shows that he showed me (about football)? Should I read the sequel to his book?Is their any repairing the damage that I’ve caused? I truly love him so much and I want to be a better girlfriend so I’d appreciate all advice. Have you ever been in a similar situation, what did you do?Tl;dr! I didn’t put in effort to show I care about boyfriend’s interests and I don’t know how to fix it