I (17M) want to re-create contact with this girl (17F)

Here is my situation: I know this girl since the elementary school, but we were no longer in contact since middle school. Two years ago, in 10th grade we were in the same class and we started chatting again. There was a realy good feeling, we were joking but we also had some serious talks. She told me about some problems with toxic friends that she was keeping really private. I didn’t know if their was something between us, but I was having a good time with her. But none of this happened outside of the school, and in the few messages we exchanged she seems very cold. Then the year ended, and during holydays I was not in a good mood and often though of her. I thought I should have done a move. Last year we weren’t in the same class, and we almost never talk during the year. I was with my friends, and she was with her friends (among wich are some of the toxic ones she told me about...). I often thought about talking with her again, but I didn’t know how to bring that without being invasive. Now, more than one year later we’re about to enter 12th grade, and even if I’m less often thinking about her, each time I do I really feel like our relationship (friendhip or romance) could have been a good one, and that make me kind of sad being separated of her like that.

Conserning myself I’m pretty shy. I have a small circle of very good friends but I’m often unconfortable when creating new relationships. I’m also not that much experimented in love relationships and I really don’t know how to manage my emotions towards girls: I fear to be to quick, I don’t want to waste my chance, and I don’t know how to do to keep contact, advance in flirting, etc. All of this seems instinctive for other people but for me it’s absolutely not. The irony is that I’m pretty good when it comes at helping my friends (girls and boys) in their relationships.

Now I’m wondering what should I do. This is our last year in the same school, and I don’t want to let this one pass without trying something like the last one, despite not being sure of my feelings about her. I feel affection for her, but I don’t know if it is love or not.

TL;DR: I used to have good time with this girl and now we don’t have anymore contact. I realy miss our relationship, and I want to talk to her again but don’t know how to not be invasive.

By the way English is not my native language so maybe their’s some strange sentences.

Submitted August 04, 2019 at 12:06AM

Here is my situation: I know this girl since the elementary school, but we were no longer in contact since middle school. Two years ago, in 10th grade we were in the same class and we started chatting again. There was a realy good feeling, we were joking but we also had some serious talks. She told me about some problems with toxic friends that she was keeping really private. I didn’t know if their was something between us, but I was having a good time with her. But none of this happened outside of the school, and in the few messages we exchanged she seems very cold. Then the year ended, and during holydays I was not in a good mood and often though of her. I thought I should have done a move. Last year we weren’t in the same class, and we almost never talk during the year. I was with my friends, and she was with her friends (among wich are some of the toxic ones she told me about...). I often thought about talking with her again, but I didn’t know how to bring that without being invasive. Now, more than one year later we’re about to enter 12th grade, and even if I’m less often thinking about her, each time I do I really feel like our relationship (friendhip or romance) could have been a good one, and that make me kind of sad being separated of her like that.Conserning myself I’m pretty shy. I have a small circle of very good friends but I’m often unconfortable when creating new relationships. I’m also not that much experimented in love relationships and I really don’t know how to manage my emotions towards girls: I fear to be to quick, I don’t want to waste my chance, and I don’t know how to do to keep contact, advance in flirting, etc. All of this seems instinctive for other people but for me it’s absolutely not. The irony is that I’m pretty good when it comes at helping my friends (girls and boys) in their relationships.Now I’m wondering what should I do. This is our last year in the same school, and I don’t want to let this one pass without trying something like the last one, despite not being sure of my feelings about her. I feel affection for her, but I don’t know if it is love or not.TL;DR: I used to have good time with this girl and now we don’t have anymore contact. I realy miss our relationship, and I want to talk to her again but don’t know how to not be invasive.By the way English is not my native language so maybe their’s some strange sentences.