I (21F) feel like I’m being emotionally abusive towards my boyfriend (24M)

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 3 months, have known each other for 6 months. We got into a huge fight yesterday over him canceling plans at the last minute, which has happened a few times in the past, but that’s beside the point. I said some things that weren’t the kindest and I ultimately made him feel really bad for cancelling. He called me out on my bullshit which i believe made me more angry in the moment. I drove to his house to try to mutually resolve the situation and so we could both hear where the other was coming from. He told me he felt like he was walking on eggshells with me, never knowing when my mood would change. I also have a tendency of giving him the silent treatment. We resolved the problem but i still feel incredibly awful about my actions. My boyfriend is one of the kindest people in the world and I never ever want to hurt him. I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship when I was 15 so I know how it feels and I don’t want him to feel like I did. We both genuinely love each other and he is definitely someone I could see myself with forever. How can I be a better partner?

TL;DR I think I’m being emotionally abusive to my boyfriend by giving him the silent treatment and being unpredictable with my moods.



Submitted August 03, 2019 at 11:37PM

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 3 months, have known each other for 6 months. We got into a huge fight yesterday over him canceling plans at the last minute, which has happened a few times in the past, but that’s beside the point. I said some things that weren’t the kindest and I ultimately made him feel really bad for cancelling. He called me out on my bullshit which i believe made me more angry in the moment. I drove to his house to try to mutually resolve the situation and so we could both hear where the other was coming from. He told me he felt like he was walking on eggshells with me, never knowing when my mood would change. I also have a tendency of giving him the silent treatment. We resolved the problem but i still feel incredibly awful about my actions. My boyfriend is one of the kindest people in the world and I never ever want to hurt him. I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship when I was 15 so I know how it feels and I don’t want him to feel like I did. We both genuinely love each other and he is definitely someone I could see myself with forever. How can I be a better partner?TL;DR I think I’m being emotionally abusive to my boyfriend by giving him the silent treatment and being unpredictable with my moods.
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