Guy I know with a gf and kid dms me all the time on Instagram?

I didn’t know where to post this, apologies if it’s in the wrong spot. A few years ago, when online dating, a guy messaged me a few times. The first time, I didn’t give him my number and I wasn’t that serious about dating. The second time, we got to chatting and I gave it to him. Turns out we were from the same area and knew a lot of people in common. We got kind of heavy in our texts and calls and seemed to connect and he told me how attractive he thought I was. Then, he randomly stopped texting, so I took the hint. I don’t know why. We never met up but he always kind of lingered in my mind.

We both got into relationships soon after. He and his new gf got pregnant and moved in together. I got engaged. A year or so later, my relationship falls apart. He came up as a suggestion on ig so I clicked out of curiosity and accidentally watched his story. He promptly added me and I followed him back.

For the last year or two, he’d like and comment a bit on my stuff (which I don’t really do for him) but recently I started using stories and he replies to a lot of my stuff. At first, I would just heart it and not talk but now we have conversations over dm and he inboxes me frequently in reply to stuff.

Is this ok? He’s like an online friend kind of except I still think he’s cool and handsome and I hate that I do because he’s taken w/a kid. It’s innocent but idk wtf I’m doing or why he always reaches out? Help. For some more context, he’s a stay at home dad and his gf has a very public, prominent high powered cool job. To say the least, I am not like this and am currently unemployed.

I just don’t know why he always reaches out. Boredom? Loneliness? Niceness? Attention? And how to not become too close so I don’t hurt myself or others etc. Help?



Submitted August 12, 2019 at 11:37PM

I didn’t know where to post this, apologies if it’s in the wrong spot. A few years ago, when online dating, a guy messaged me a few times. The first time, I didn’t give him my number and I wasn’t that serious about dating. The second time, we got to chatting and I gave it to him. Turns out we were from the same area and knew a lot of people in common. We got kind of heavy in our texts and calls and seemed to connect and he told me how attractive he thought I was. Then, he randomly stopped texting, so I took the hint. I don’t know why. We never met up but he always kind of lingered in my mind.We both got into relationships soon after. He and his new gf got pregnant and moved in together. I got engaged. A year or so later, my relationship falls apart. He came up as a suggestion on ig so I clicked out of curiosity and accidentally watched his story. He promptly added me and I followed him back.For the last year or two, he’d like and comment a bit on my stuff (which I don’t really do for him) but recently I started using stories and he replies to a lot of my stuff. At first, I would just heart it and not talk but now we have conversations over dm and he inboxes me frequently in reply to stuff.Is this ok? He’s like an online friend kind of except I still think he’s cool and handsome and I hate that I do because he’s taken w/a kid. It’s innocent but idk wtf I’m doing or why he always reaches out? Help. For some more context, he’s a stay at home dad and his gf has a very public, prominent high powered cool job. To say the least, I am not like this and am currently unemployed.I just don’t know why he always reaches out. Boredom? Loneliness? Niceness? Attention? And how to not become too close so I don’t hurt myself or others etc. Help?
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