21 yrs and sex once a week

hi! im writing here because the issue is really kind of heartbreaking to me so i was hoping for some advice. me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, first six months we didnt have sex as i was a virgin with huge body issues and the idea of sex made me want to cry, he felt too uncomfortable to touch the subject so we just didnt had sex that long, then theres been half a year of quite a lot if sex, after starting to feel comfortable it turned out i loved sex and even had a bigger sex drive then him, it wasnt perfect but the sex was great and we laughed at my high libido, then came his half a year erasmus where he studied in portugal, now we have been living together for 3 months and i have an issue

at first when we moved in his tooth started aching, a wisdom tooth, i understood the lack of sex drive even though it was sad. then came a hard time for his college work so i understood. he often came home and didnt want anything even though i asked and told him abiut my feelings. i asked why doesnt he feel sexual attraction to me and he said he doesnt know but that its not my fault. now we have been relaxing for quite a while with not much stuff on our head but my advances keep getting rejected. he touches my body, slaps my butt, kisses me a lot, is super affectionate but when i start undressing or asking for it he laughs at me and ignores me. it hurts a lot and conversations dont help.

i dont want to be 21 and having mediocre sex 1 a week...but honestly hes the best the most loving partner ill ever find.



Submitted June 02, 2019 at 12:11AM

hi! im writing here because the issue is really kind of heartbreaking to me so i was hoping for some advice. me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, first six months we didnt have sex as i was a virgin with huge body issues and the idea of sex made me want to cry, he felt too uncomfortable to touch the subject so we just didnt had sex that long, then theres been half a year of quite a lot if sex, after starting to feel comfortable it turned out i loved sex and even had a bigger sex drive then him, it wasnt perfect but the sex was great and we laughed at my high libido, then came his half a year erasmus where he studied in portugal, now we have been living together for 3 months and i have an issueat first when we moved in his tooth started aching, a wisdom tooth, i understood the lack of sex drive even though it was sad. then came a hard time for his college work so i understood. he often came home and didnt want anything even though i asked and told him abiut my feelings. i asked why doesnt he feel sexual attraction to me and he said he doesnt know but that its not my fault. now we have been relaxing for quite a while with not much stuff on our head but my advances keep getting rejected. he touches my body, slaps my butt, kisses me a lot, is super affectionate but when i start undressing or asking for it he laughs at me and ignores me. it hurts a lot and conversations dont help.i dont want to be 21 and having mediocre sex 1 a week...but honestly hes the best the most loving partner ill ever find.
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