Would you be offended if the guy you were dating told you that when masturbating he only got off by watching or visualizing a specific porn star? And never thought of you?

I'm not into drama but this pissed me off. As with everything, there is a back story.... mainly me bending over backwards (not a pun, I swear) to help him successfully overcome death grip syndrome and a suspected porn addiction. This issue of his still limits our sex life to a decent degree and requires a looot of determined, sustained oral from me in order for him to cum but that's not something I mind, generally.

So anyhoo, after a typical evening of sex antics the convo turns to masturbation. I ask what he thinks about to get off. He says Brandi and Alexis (two pornstars he's talked a lot about). I laugh a little uneasily and say, "and me sometimes too, right?" No, he clarifies, just them.

I'm irrationally annoyed and I don't know why. I mean, more backstory is that he has the habit of saying fairly unkind &/or mean things to me here and there and I've told him to fucking knock it off. And honestly, a human does has the right to fantasize about whatever and whomever they want when getting off. But just laying there next to him, naked with a sore jaw from an very extended blow job because of residual death grip and porn addiction, it felt like a tipping point, I suppose. Maybe I'm overreacting. But it stung.

I feel like a dramatic teenaged girl but honestly, maybe him and Brandi and Alexis are better off together.

Submitted November 13, 2021 at 11:58PM

I'm not into drama but this pissed me off. As with everything, there is a back story.... mainly me bending over backwards (not a pun, I swear) to help him successfully overcome death grip syndrome and a suspected porn addiction. This issue of his still limits our sex life to a decent degree and requires a looot of determined, sustained oral from me in order for him to cum but that's not something I mind, generally.So anyhoo, after a typical evening of sex antics the convo turns to masturbation. I ask what he thinks about to get off. He says Brandi and Alexis (two pornstars he's talked a lot about). I laugh a little uneasily and say, "and me sometimes too, right?" No, he clarifies, just them.I'm irrationally annoyed and I don't know why. I mean, more backstory is that he has the habit of saying fairly unkind &/or mean things to me here and there and I've told him to fucking knock it off. And honestly, a human does has the right to fantasize about whatever and whomever they want when getting off. But just laying there next to him, naked with a sore jaw from an very extended blow job because of residual death grip and porn addiction, it felt like a tipping point, I suppose. Maybe I'm overreacting. But it stung.I feel like a dramatic teenaged girl but honestly, maybe him and Brandi and Alexis are better off together.