He (21) wants to make an effort now that I’ve been distant me (20)

Hey so I met this guy in instagram around the middle of September and we hit it off pretty well from the get go. We exchanged numbers and started chatting there. He asked me out on a date after talking for 2 weeks so this is the end of September at this point. Everything went nice. We went on a another date in October and that went even better than the first one. We had sex on that one after that, things started to spiral. He kept pressuring me to go to his house and every single time that we have met up, I’ve gone to see him. He has never came to see me. We live about 45 minutes from each other so not so bad but I feel like I’m putting in too much effort when he isn’t trying.

It was just weird because last couple of times that I came, we did seem to bicker and I get there will be disagreements but I just think it’s kinda weird he keeps inviting me over to his mom’s house because all we ever do is have sex and then I am just sitting on his bed bored because he plays video games which I wouldn’t mind but he doesn’t even ask me if I wanna play with him or he doesn’t even put on a movie. It’s like I’m there in his presence but there’s not much of an acknowledgment there and that isn’t “spending time together “

He says that I should be grateful for what he does but he isn’t doing much to progress the relationship and move things forward at least I think. I want us to actually go out on dates and be social. We don’t even have to go on dates all the time. We can just go walk at the park but I feel like at talking for 2 months, me being around his mom is just too much. She’s asking me questions and like I barely know this guy and he’s not my boyfriend yet so it’s just too much.

I told him how I felt and expressed that I feel like this “almost relationship” I feel that it’s one sided. I’m putting all this effort and he’s doing bare minimum. It’s not exactly fair to me. He said he understood so to speak and I also said that I wouldn’t be doing too much or going much out of my way to visit him since the favor is not reciprocated. He told me to stop trying to change him and to go find another guy so I told him that I will and that to not talk to me anymore and that I was tired of him playing games with me. Then I unfriended him off of snap the other day and I didn’t initiate much contact for 2 days and then I went to go see my friend yesterday and he called me and he got mad because he thought I was with a guy.

Then his text messages he asked me if I wanted to go out on A date and have dinner with him. Now all of sudden he wants to see me and make an effort now that I am not really paying him much attention…

Submitted November 14, 2021 at 12:12AM

Hey so I met this guy in instagram around the middle of September and we hit it off pretty well from the get go. We exchanged numbers and started chatting there. He asked me out on a date after talking for 2 weeks so this is the end of September at this point. Everything went nice. We went on a another date in October and that went even better than the first one. We had sex on that one after that, things started to spiral. He kept pressuring me to go to his house and every single time that we have met up, I’ve gone to see him. He has never came to see me. We live about 45 minutes from each other so not so bad but I feel like I’m putting in too much effort when he isn’t trying.It was just weird because last couple of times that I came, we did seem to bicker and I get there will be disagreements but I just think it’s kinda weird he keeps inviting me over to his mom’s house because all we ever do is have sex and then I am just sitting on his bed bored because he plays video games which I wouldn’t mind but he doesn’t even ask me if I wanna play with him or he doesn’t even put on a movie. It’s like I’m there in his presence but there’s not much of an acknowledgment there and that isn’t “spending time together “He says that I should be grateful for what he does but he isn’t doing much to progress the relationship and move things forward at least I think. I want us to actually go out on dates and be social. We don’t even have to go on dates all the time. We can just go walk at the park but I feel like at talking for 2 months, me being around his mom is just too much. She’s asking me questions and like I barely know this guy and he’s not my boyfriend yet so it’s just too much.I told him how I felt and expressed that I feel like this “almost relationship” I feel that it’s one sided. I’m putting all this effort and he’s doing bare minimum. It’s not exactly fair to me. He said he understood so to speak and I also said that I wouldn’t be doing too much or going much out of my way to visit him since the favor is not reciprocated. He told me to stop trying to change him and to go find another guy so I told him that I will and that to not talk to me anymore and that I was tired of him playing games with me. Then I unfriended him off of snap the other day and I didn’t initiate much contact for 2 days and then I went to go see my friend yesterday and he called me and he got mad because he thought I was with a guy.Then his text messages he asked me if I wanted to go out on A date and have dinner with him. Now all of sudden he wants to see me and make an effort now that I am not really paying him much attention…