He liked me but once I started liking him back, he pulled away

So I (23F) have a best friend (26M) of a few years. Up until now we have been strictly platonic despite the fact that every one of our friends, even his parents, thought we were dating or that we like each other and will end up together eventually. The fact that we are such good friends has gotten in the way of our past relationships as well, but we have always insisted that we are not going to stop being friends because of someone else.

He has made comments that we are going to end up together eventually or that he likes me on numerous occasions for the past few years. Because of my past experiences and fear of commitment, I have always joked about it with him but deep down, I knew that I like him a lot, and I would eventually feel ready to pursue him. I have firmly believed that we are endgame and will find our ways to each other and that he feels the same.

Long story short, the time has come and we have kissed and started seeing each other or so I thought. It felt really good and I felt like everything is going the way it is supposed to. After like three weeks he suddenly pulled away, he didn't initiate any further meeting or a date. He keeps talking to me but it's like he is avoiding the conversation about what happened between us, what is going to happen next and refuses to get serious. I have tried to hang out with him, asked him to come see me but he keeps declining for the past two weeks. I am sick of asking him out all the time as well and I feel really pathetic that I am almost begging him to let me come over or to see me while he, himself, never says anything. I have tried to lightly bring up the topic, but he told me I'm too needy (I don't know if it was a joke or not). I don't even think I'm needy, I just wanted to see him once a week and was having a hard time once and wanted to see him but he would not. I don't know what to think and at this point, I'm afraid to ask.



Submitted November 14, 2021 at 12:12AM

So I (23F) have a best friend (26M) of a few years. Up until now we have been strictly platonic despite the fact that every one of our friends, even his parents, thought we were dating or that we like each other and will end up together eventually. The fact that we are such good friends has gotten in the way of our past relationships as well, but we have always insisted that we are not going to stop being friends because of someone else.He has made comments that we are going to end up together eventually or that he likes me on numerous occasions for the past few years. Because of my past experiences and fear of commitment, I have always joked about it with him but deep down, I knew that I like him a lot, and I would eventually feel ready to pursue him. I have firmly believed that we are endgame and will find our ways to each other and that he feels the same.Long story short, the time has come and we have kissed and started seeing each other or so I thought. It felt really good and I felt like everything is going the way it is supposed to. After like three weeks he suddenly pulled away, he didn't initiate any further meeting or a date. He keeps talking to me but it's like he is avoiding the conversation about what happened between us, what is going to happen next and refuses to get serious. I have tried to hang out with him, asked him to come see me but he keeps declining for the past two weeks. I am sick of asking him out all the time as well and I feel really pathetic that I am almost begging him to let me come over or to see me while he, himself, never says anything. I have tried to lightly bring up the topic, but he told me I'm too needy (I don't know if it was a joke or not). I don't even think I'm needy, I just wanted to see him once a week and was having a hard time once and wanted to see him but he would not. I don't know what to think and at this point, I'm afraid to ask.
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