Fingering caused pain for several days

To give you a bit of background, my partner refused to let me go down on her at first, but over time she relaxed and let me do it. Just for a little while at first, but then it got to the point where she would let me use fingers and mouth down there for hours at a time. I started getting more adventurous as she relaxed, and started hitting her g spot, which she loved. One night I decided to try three fingers. She jumped a bit, and I apologised, asked if it was ok but she said yes so I slowed down and kept going. She seemed to be enjoying it but then after a little while asked me to go back to two. We finished having sex, she had a few orgasms and everything seemed fine.

The next day she complained of her uterus hurting, and the pain lasted several days. She even said that she wet herself a few times because she didn't realise she needed to pee. I've searched and searched, but I can't find anywhere that warns about this as a side effect from fingering. I've done similar things with other girls, some have enjoyed it, others have found it uncomfortable and asked me to stop, but never have I experienced this. One thing I did come across was that getting a UTI could cause pain and unintentional urination, but I am careful to wash my hands before fingering and we have sex in a clean environment. We've been tested for STDs so it's not that either. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I'm wondering if maybe I nicked her with my nail, and that's why she jumped, which has then gotten infected.

I feel really bad that she had to go through the pain and discomfort, but it's negatively impacted our sex life. I am really into female orgasms and squirting, and she was just getting to the point where she was starting to squirt. Now she is, understandably, reluctant to let me finger her, and she is not able to relax as much. Does anyone have advice on how I could win her trust back and avoid this sort of thing happening again (obviously I won't use three fingers again, and I am patiently respecting her boundaries, not forcing anything on her)?



Submitted July 11, 2021 at 12:23AM

To give you a bit of background, my partner refused to let me go down on her at first, but over time she relaxed and let me do it. Just for a little while at first, but then it got to the point where she would let me use fingers and mouth down there for hours at a time. I started getting more adventurous as she relaxed, and started hitting her g spot, which she loved. One night I decided to try three fingers. She jumped a bit, and I apologised, asked if it was ok but she said yes so I slowed down and kept going. She seemed to be enjoying it but then after a little while asked me to go back to two. We finished having sex, she had a few orgasms and everything seemed fine.The next day she complained of her uterus hurting, and the pain lasted several days. She even said that she wet herself a few times because she didn't realise she needed to pee. I've searched and searched, but I can't find anywhere that warns about this as a side effect from fingering. I've done similar things with other girls, some have enjoyed it, others have found it uncomfortable and asked me to stop, but never have I experienced this. One thing I did come across was that getting a UTI could cause pain and unintentional urination, but I am careful to wash my hands before fingering and we have sex in a clean environment. We've been tested for STDs so it's not that either. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I'm wondering if maybe I nicked her with my nail, and that's why she jumped, which has then gotten infected.I feel really bad that she had to go through the pain and discomfort, but it's negatively impacted our sex life. I am really into female orgasms and squirting, and she was just getting to the point where she was starting to squirt. Now she is, understandably, reluctant to let me finger her, and she is not able to relax as much. Does anyone have advice on how I could win her trust back and avoid this sort of thing happening again (obviously I won't use three fingers again, and I am patiently respecting her boundaries, not forcing anything on her)?
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