Girl stands me up and then ghosts me but just followed me on instagram and comments on my stories?

I'm a guy. We're both 30.

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A year ago I randomly ran into a girl I used to know socially. I had a crush on her way back, didn't know her too well but she had a serious bf and we were just friendly.

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So when I ran into her, she was really happy to see me. I was going out of town the next day but we talked, probably our longest convo ever. And she gave me her number and said we should meet up when I get back.

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We text a little on my trip and she tells me she's exited to see me and she thinks of me often and is happy to have my number now.

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I had no idea but felt there was mutual attraction and good chemistry and am excited.

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I get back and am going to a free concert I thought she'd like the next night and invite her to come with. I'm going anyways because a friend is hosting and she agrees to come. I give her the place and time. She says she'll come and I leave it at that figuring she will.... She never showed up, never told me she wasn't coming.

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I was bummed. But I had friends there anyways so no loss.

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I didn't hear from her but still thought of her. I was doing something similar the next week and reached out and invited her. She didn't respond to that invite.

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So I took a hint and was disappointed but gave up.

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6 months later, I run into her again at the supermarket. It brings back memories and I feel kinda angry but we chat. She suggests we meet up soon. I have nothing to lose so a week later, I text her something random. She responds right away and says we should meet up. I tell her that I'm going to an event the next day and she says, cool, "tell me when you're going". I give her an approx. time.

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The next morning, I tell her where and when I'm going precisely, several hours in advance.

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Never heard back from her.

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Now it's 3 months later and I still think of her and she randomly follows me on instagram and is liking my posts and stories. I purposely avoided following her before but I followed back like a sucker but muted her and haven't liked her posts or responded.

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I was thinking of blocking or unfollowing her but I don't even know if she realizes what she's done. I don't know if she's even interested and I'm crazy and think about her too much. I don't know if she's seeing anyone or anything. I feel like she's messing with me but probably doesn't think of me at all.

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We're both 30 years old.

Submitted May 20, 2020 at 11:43PM

I'm a guy. We're both 30.​A year ago I randomly ran into a girl I used to know socially. I had a crush on her way back, didn't know her too well but she had a serious bf and we were just friendly.​So when I ran into her, she was really happy to see me. I was going out of town the next day but we talked, probably our longest convo ever. And she gave me her number and said we should meet up when I get back.​We text a little on my trip and she tells me she's exited to see me and she thinks of me often and is happy to have my number now.​I had no idea but felt there was mutual attraction and good chemistry and am excited.​I get back and am going to a free concert I thought she'd like the next night and invite her to come with. I'm going anyways because a friend is hosting and she agrees to come. I give her the place and time. She says she'll come and I leave it at that figuring she will.... She never showed up, never told me she wasn't coming.​I was bummed. But I had friends there anyways so no loss.​I didn't hear from her but still thought of her. I was doing something similar the next week and reached out and invited her. She didn't respond to that invite.​So I took a hint and was disappointed but gave up.​6 months later, I run into her again at the supermarket. It brings back memories and I feel kinda angry but we chat. She suggests we meet up soon. I have nothing to lose so a week later, I text her something random. She responds right away and says we should meet up. I tell her that I'm going to an event the next day and she says, cool, "tell me when you're going". I give her an approx. time.​The next morning, I tell her where and when I'm going precisely, several hours in advance.​Never heard back from her.​Now it's 3 months later and I still think of her and she randomly follows me on instagram and is liking my posts and stories. I purposely avoided following her before but I followed back like a sucker but muted her and haven't liked her posts or responded.​I was thinking of blocking or unfollowing her but I don't even know if she realizes what she's done. I don't know if she's even interested and I'm crazy and think about her too much. I don't know if she's seeing anyone or anything. I feel like she's messing with me but probably doesn't think of me at all.​We're both 30 years old.