I want to get better at sex, but I don't want to sleep with different people. Why should I sleep with other people?

I don't see how sleeping with different people can teach you how to get better at sex. I remember someone told me she slept with a guy who slept with many women and had no idea what he was doing in the bedroom. That's a difference between people who want to practice and people who chase the number.

Some people would be like, "you need to sleep with different peiple." Even if I did sleep with other people, I'll learn nothing because I'd not know how I was doing and everyone has different preferences. Feedback or constructive criticism is only one way for me to get better.

I never had any desire to sleep with other people. STD/STI is one of my main concerns. I also need to feel comfortable and safe. I also need trust.

Before I lost my virginity, I hoped my first time would be with a FWB or boyfriend. I hoped that we would have sex again and again. My wish came true, and it was with my FWB.

He is experienced, and he did suggest that I should sleep with someone else because I need to get to know what I like and try different guys. He's not pressuring me.

I just feel that's not necessary. I mean I did have a good time with him and I never dreamed of sleeping with different guys in my life before or after I lost my virginity. I'm sure you can still get a fulfilled sex life with one partner if you have a fantastic sex life. That's what matters.

Please tell me why I should sleep with other guys. What if I have no interest? For me, it requires trust. I don't like to feel stressed over "what if he unknowingly gave me STI?" until I get tested. I also need a connection and trust like a FWB or boyfriend. I also want to limit my partner number.



Submitted April 16, 2020 at 11:14PM

I don't see how sleeping with different people can teach you how to get better at sex. I remember someone told me she slept with a guy who slept with many women and had no idea what he was doing in the bedroom. That's a difference between people who want to practice and people who chase the number.Some people would be like, "you need to sleep with different peiple." Even if I did sleep with other people, I'll learn nothing because I'd not know how I was doing and everyone has different preferences. Feedback or constructive criticism is only one way for me to get better.I never had any desire to sleep with other people. STD/STI is one of my main concerns. I also need to feel comfortable and safe. I also need trust.Before I lost my virginity, I hoped my first time would be with a FWB or boyfriend. I hoped that we would have sex again and again. My wish came true, and it was with my FWB.He is experienced, and he did suggest that I should sleep with someone else because I need to get to know what I like and try different guys. He's not pressuring me.I just feel that's not necessary. I mean I did have a good time with him and I never dreamed of sleeping with different guys in my life before or after I lost my virginity. I'm sure you can still get a fulfilled sex life with one partner if you have a fantastic sex life. That's what matters.Please tell me why I should sleep with other guys. What if I have no interest? For me, it requires trust. I don't like to feel stressed over "what if he unknowingly gave me STI?" until I get tested. I also need a connection and trust like a FWB or boyfriend. I also want to limit my partner number.
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