Why would he squeeze my hand during a romantic conversation instead of respond verbally?

We (29F) (39M) met at work and have been flirting for months but he’s my boss so we haven’t moved anything past flirting. Then there was a work event and sparks were flying. We kept catching each other’s eyes from across the room and it kept getting more and more intense each time. We were like magnets for each other. At some point during the night he says to me, “I know this is hard”. I respond, “Yeah it’s hard. I like you!” He says, “I like you too....are you a player?” “No, I just feel chemistry with you”.

He sat there for a few seconds, not responding. I could tell he was thinking about what I said. Instead of saying something, he reached over and grabbed my hand, held it for a few seconds, and squeezed it. Then looked into my eyes and told me he wanted to kiss me. I feel like if he were just too afraid to say anything he wouldn’t have said he wanted to kiss me and he wouldn’t be able to look at me like that.

If I could ask him I would, but we’re trying to stay away from each other for obvious reasons. Any ideas? If my question annoys you or you want to write a rude reply then I ask that you just keep scrolling and leave me alone. I’m not looking for anyone’s judgment, I’m just hoping for some friendly feedback.

Submitted March 24, 2020 at 11:47PM

We (29F) (39M) met at work and have been flirting for months but he’s my boss so we haven’t moved anything past flirting. Then there was a work event and sparks were flying. We kept catching each other’s eyes from across the room and it kept getting more and more intense each time. We were like magnets for each other. At some point during the night he says to me, “I know this is hard”. I respond, “Yeah it’s hard. I like you!” He says, “I like you too....are you a player?” “No, I just feel chemistry with you”.He sat there for a few seconds, not responding. I could tell he was thinking about what I said. Instead of saying something, he reached over and grabbed my hand, held it for a few seconds, and squeezed it. Then looked into my eyes and told me he wanted to kiss me. I feel like if he were just too afraid to say anything he wouldn’t have said he wanted to kiss me and he wouldn’t be able to look at me like that.If I could ask him I would, but we’re trying to stay away from each other for obvious reasons. Any ideas? If my question annoys you or you want to write a rude reply then I ask that you just keep scrolling and leave me alone. I’m not looking for anyone’s judgment, I’m just hoping for some friendly feedback.