my boyfriend (25m) keeps shutting me out and I (25f) want to leave

So a little background, we're both 25 and we've been together for a year. Things were going pretty great until he recently graduated and moved to his parents house (few months back). His parents are pretty hard on him all the time and so him being at home is causing his personality to change. He planned to move out as soon as he got a job but the job market is pretty shit at the moment. The thing that makes me sad the most is that he acts like he's disinterested in me, or the relationship as a whole. Like he lacks the emotional capacity to be in a relationship. I have been trying to understand him but he never shares. He said sharing problems is not gonna change anything so he prefers to avoid answering my questions when I ask him what's going on. I feel bad because I know he's in a bad place but I have emotional needs too and he doesnt seem to want to work things out with me but keeps shutting me out. Should I tell him I'm leaving or should I stay until he get things sorted out? Also, since him and I are of different religions and in my country we can only get married if he converts into mine and we've never had a conversation about it, I think someday somehow a breakup was bound to happen.

Tl:dr My bf is shutting me out of his life and I want to tell him i want to leave but I feel bad



Submitted March 17, 2020 at 12:17AM

So a little background, we're both 25 and we've been together for a year. Things were going pretty great until he recently graduated and moved to his parents house (few months back). His parents are pretty hard on him all the time and so him being at home is causing his personality to change. He planned to move out as soon as he got a job but the job market is pretty shit at the moment. The thing that makes me sad the most is that he acts like he's disinterested in me, or the relationship as a whole. Like he lacks the emotional capacity to be in a relationship. I have been trying to understand him but he never shares. He said sharing problems is not gonna change anything so he prefers to avoid answering my questions when I ask him what's going on. I feel bad because I know he's in a bad place but I have emotional needs too and he doesnt seem to want to work things out with me but keeps shutting me out. Should I tell him I'm leaving or should I stay until he get things sorted out? Also, since him and I are of different religions and in my country we can only get married if he converts into mine and we've never had a conversation about it, I think someday somehow a breakup was bound to happen.Tl:dr My bf is shutting me out of his life and I want to tell him i want to leave but I feel bad
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