My [28 F] boyfriend [29 M] of 7 months wants to Social Distance

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, it's serious, and now because of the crisis we're both teleworking. We both understand the need for social distancing. We both stocked up on food and are avoiding leaving our respective apartments.

My boyfriend wants to avoid us seeing each other until it's safe and I'm respecting that. He's suggested phone calls and watching movies together like we're long distance.

But what happens come May? What if this goes on longer than anyone would hope? Because it isn't lost on me that social distancing doesn't mean families split up. I've only been dating my boyfriend 7 months but we've said we love each other and I honestly wouldn't have a problem moving in together now.

He's said he doesn't want to move in together until he gets a better job and a larger apartment than his studio. He's also worried about us not really knowing how it would work for us, if there would be conflicts over chores, etc.

I've respected his feelings and intended to bring up moving in together once we hit one year. Even then I only planned to bring it up as an idea to work towards. But if this virus means we can't see each other at all...

I'd rather be "quarantined" together. I love him and we haven't even fought yet, but I'm worried about this coming between us. I feel like May is my limit. I've always said the stupid thing I could do in a relationship is make demands of my partner, but again, if we were family, or if we did live together...social distancing wouldn't apply unless one of us showed symptoms.

Any advice on talking to him about this? Or what we should even do? I understand the need for safety now, more than a lot of our friends even, but I'm already living with roommates and I don't have family to go back to, so he's it. It's only been 7 months, but if I were hospitalized he's the one I'd want by my side.

That's how much I care about him, and I was going to respect his wishes about living apart, but if social distancing means we can't see each other at all then I do have a limit until it bothers me.

Tl;dr My boyfriend wants to social distance and avoid seeing each other. I'm fine with that...until a point. If it lasts all summer then I'd rather take the risk of seeing him. I'd even move in with him and "self quarantine" together, but he's not ready. What should we do and how should I talk to him about it?

Submitted March 16, 2020 at 11:53PM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, it's serious, and now because of the crisis we're both teleworking. We both understand the need for social distancing. We both stocked up on food and are avoiding leaving our respective apartments.My boyfriend wants to avoid us seeing each other until it's safe and I'm respecting that. He's suggested phone calls and watching movies together like we're long distance.But what happens come May? What if this goes on longer than anyone would hope? Because it isn't lost on me that social distancing doesn't mean families split up. I've only been dating my boyfriend 7 months but we've said we love each other and I honestly wouldn't have a problem moving in together now.He's said he doesn't want to move in together until he gets a better job and a larger apartment than his studio. He's also worried about us not really knowing how it would work for us, if there would be conflicts over chores, etc.I've respected his feelings and intended to bring up moving in together once we hit one year. Even then I only planned to bring it up as an idea to work towards. But if this virus means we can't see each other at all...I'd rather be "quarantined" together. I love him and we haven't even fought yet, but I'm worried about this coming between us. I feel like May is my limit. I've always said the stupid thing I could do in a relationship is make demands of my partner, but again, if we were family, or if we did live together...social distancing wouldn't apply unless one of us showed symptoms.Any advice on talking to him about this? Or what we should even do? I understand the need for safety now, more than a lot of our friends even, but I'm already living with roommates and I don't have family to go back to, so he's it. It's only been 7 months, but if I were hospitalized he's the one I'd want by my side.That's how much I care about him, and I was going to respect his wishes about living apart, but if social distancing means we can't see each other at all then I do have a limit until it bothers me.Tl;dr My boyfriend wants to social distance and avoid seeing each other. I'm fine with that...until a point. If it lasts all summer then I'd rather take the risk of seeing him. I'd even move in with him and "self quarantine" together, but he's not ready. What should we do and how should I talk to him about it?