Is she too proud to make a move, or is she simply not interested?

I don't know if this is the right sub, but it feels like it.

So, backstory: I texted this girl back in October. She doesn't make herself sound very approachable, as in, "I don't like guys trying to flirt with me." I respect that.

We quickly learned about our mutual interests, so we bonded a little. We texted a lot, just making jokes and saying really creative, stupid things.

I figured she's not too outgoing really early on. She works a full time job during the day and studies at night, and she's really focused (doesn't stay up late), but she always has lots of time for me. We don't ever have any meaningful conversation aside from a few debates we had before, it's usually just goofing around.

We also used to say "good morning my [insert strange, creative compliment here]" all the time. It almost sounded like flirting to me. There was also one time I told her my height (I'm tall) and she said something about women preferring tall guys, then she said she was a bit drunk and that I should ignore that.

I took too long to ask her out, to be honest, but I still did it. I wasn't too straightforward because I was a bit afraid she'd think I've just been trying to date her, so I told her I'm gonna go somewhere and asked if she wants to go there too. She promptly said no.

We had a playful hate thing going on between us at some point as well. We kept going until she no longer responded in December. We didn't talk again until a few days ago when I decided to text her again. As usual, our conversations are kinda soulless. They only seemed to have some soul back in October. There's no apparent empathy going on between us. It's just jokes nonstop, she doesn't care how I'm doing and I never ask her either because I think she'd take it in a bad way. It's like she doesn't want me to care about her.

She did say it was nice to talk to me again in an obvious sarcastic remark.

Why does she still talk to me? She puts lots of effort into our silly conversations, but she's quite vocal about not liking me, thinking I look repulsive, etc., jokingly...but I feel like there might be truth to that, for some reason. She could just stop talking to me altogether.

We had a conversation about our dating experiences and she said her last date was in 2015 and that she regrets wasting her time. She also said she might like a guy, but she'll never make a move and that she loses interest once there's no more mystery.

For the record, we're both 20.

Should I do anything about this? I enjoy talking to her because I think she's funny, but I am attracted to her and I wish we were more close emotionally.

Submitted March 12, 2020 at 12:15AM

I don't know if this is the right sub, but it feels like it.So, backstory: I texted this girl back in October. She doesn't make herself sound very approachable, as in, "I don't like guys trying to flirt with me." I respect that.We quickly learned about our mutual interests, so we bonded a little. We texted a lot, just making jokes and saying really creative, stupid things.I figured she's not too outgoing really early on. She works a full time job during the day and studies at night, and she's really focused (doesn't stay up late), but she always has lots of time for me. We don't ever have any meaningful conversation aside from a few debates we had before, it's usually just goofing around.We also used to say "good morning my [insert strange, creative compliment here]" all the time. It almost sounded like flirting to me. There was also one time I told her my height (I'm tall) and she said something about women preferring tall guys, then she said she was a bit drunk and that I should ignore that.I took too long to ask her out, to be honest, but I still did it. I wasn't too straightforward because I was a bit afraid she'd think I've just been trying to date her, so I told her I'm gonna go somewhere and asked if she wants to go there too. She promptly said no.We had a playful hate thing going on between us at some point as well. We kept going until she no longer responded in December. We didn't talk again until a few days ago when I decided to text her again. As usual, our conversations are kinda soulless. They only seemed to have some soul back in October. There's no apparent empathy going on between us. It's just jokes nonstop, she doesn't care how I'm doing and I never ask her either because I think she'd take it in a bad way. It's like she doesn't want me to care about her.She did say it was nice to talk to me again in an obvious sarcastic remark.Why does she still talk to me? She puts lots of effort into our silly conversations, but she's quite vocal about not liking me, thinking I look repulsive, etc., jokingly...but I feel like there might be truth to that, for some reason. She could just stop talking to me altogether.We had a conversation about our dating experiences and she said her last date was in 2015 and that she regrets wasting her time. She also said she might like a guy, but she'll never make a move and that she loses interest once there's no more mystery.For the record, we're both 20.Should I do anything about this? I enjoy talking to her because I think she's funny, but I am attracted to her and I wish we were more close emotionally.