I have finally come to appreciate being a single.

Society tells us that we need another human being to complete us. This pressure is mostly felt by women. People constantly tell us that we’re running out of time,that we won’t find anyone after turning 30, and that we won’t be able to have kids because we’ll be too old. We rush into relationships, marriage, and having kids even though deep down our gut tells us that this isn’t the right thing to do. We compare ourselves to other people and to their timeline which doesn’t have to be ours. Relationship is hard work but society and media tells us it’s all nice and easy. I’m 22F and since I was a teenager, I’ve always wanted a boyfriend. I had one and even after a break up I wanted to be in another relationship. I’ve always wanted a guy because I thought he would complete me. Then, I dated this guy who was way more into me than I was into him and it hit me. I love my independence and being able to do whatever I want to do, whenever I want to. I realized that I will be in a relationship until the rest of my life and now is the time to really take advantage of being single and embrace it. To all the people who are desperately looking for SO. Pause. Breath. Look at all the perks of being single. Your partner will come at the right time but for now, focus on yourself. Focus on being the best version of yourself so whenever your partner comes, you’re complete and your relationship can blossom instead of rotting because of your bad traits that you didn’t deal with before entering into a relationship.

Submitted March 11, 2020 at 11:56PM

Society tells us that we need another human being to complete us. This pressure is mostly felt by women. People constantly tell us that we’re running out of time,that we won’t find anyone after turning 30, and that we won’t be able to have kids because we’ll be too old. We rush into relationships, marriage, and having kids even though deep down our gut tells us that this isn’t the right thing to do. We compare ourselves to other people and to their timeline which doesn’t have to be ours. Relationship is hard work but society and media tells us it’s all nice and easy. I’m 22F and since I was a teenager, I’ve always wanted a boyfriend. I had one and even after a break up I wanted to be in another relationship. I’ve always wanted a guy because I thought he would complete me. Then, I dated this guy who was way more into me than I was into him and it hit me. I love my independence and being able to do whatever I want to do, whenever I want to. I realized that I will be in a relationship until the rest of my life and now is the time to really take advantage of being single and embrace it. To all the people who are desperately looking for SO. Pause. Breath. Look at all the perks of being single. Your partner will come at the right time but for now, focus on yourself. Focus on being the best version of yourself so whenever your partner comes, you’re complete and your relationship can blossom instead of rotting because of your bad traits that you didn’t deal with before entering into a relationship.