A Hopeless Situation

I know this is about to be the typical single guy pity post but I seriously don't know what else to do or say at this point. Just some background about myself I'm 21, male, bisexual (if that matters), I'm in my senior year of college. I've been single for five years and not because I've wanted to be. It's just that starting to date again after a two year relationship proved to be way harder than I thought it would be, things snowballed/life happened, and now five years later I'm sitting here wondering where all that time went. In all that time I still haven't gotten past the second date. I've hooked up with some people then never talked to them again after because I was so embarrased about my performance lol. I'm shy and I always have a hard time holding a conversation with people I'm interested in and then my shyness just interferes with the whole encounter. It's like I'm trying to put myself out there and talk to people but I'm saying the wrong things and not getting even close to the results I want. I know that sounds entitled but it's just hard watching all your friends get attention from people they're interested, getting into relationships, having good sex, and I just have no idea how to have any of those things. My self esteem is crushed. I try, I really do, I promise I do, and at this point I've heard all the advice from "love yourself" to "you're too nice" to "you're not nice enough," I have hobbies, I work out. I message people on dating apps every day and barely get responses. I just don't get it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my twenties single. I want to get out of this rut and actually be who I want to be and have social skills and be able to attract people to me and feel wanted and loved. I just don't know how.



Submitted March 11, 2020 at 11:41PM

I know this is about to be the typical single guy pity post but I seriously don't know what else to do or say at this point. Just some background about myself I'm 21, male, bisexual (if that matters), I'm in my senior year of college. I've been single for five years and not because I've wanted to be. It's just that starting to date again after a two year relationship proved to be way harder than I thought it would be, things snowballed/life happened, and now five years later I'm sitting here wondering where all that time went. In all that time I still haven't gotten past the second date. I've hooked up with some people then never talked to them again after because I was so embarrased about my performance lol. I'm shy and I always have a hard time holding a conversation with people I'm interested in and then my shyness just interferes with the whole encounter. It's like I'm trying to put myself out there and talk to people but I'm saying the wrong things and not getting even close to the results I want. I know that sounds entitled but it's just hard watching all your friends get attention from people they're interested, getting into relationships, having good sex, and I just have no idea how to have any of those things. My self esteem is crushed. I try, I really do, I promise I do, and at this point I've heard all the advice from "love yourself" to "you're too nice" to "you're not nice enough," I have hobbies, I work out. I message people on dating apps every day and barely get responses. I just don't get it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my twenties single. I want to get out of this rut and actually be who I want to be and have social skills and be able to attract people to me and feel wanted and loved. I just don't know how.
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