Two dates went fantastic, but there is no real interaction (messaging) between them. Kinda complicated by the fact we know each other from before.

So yeah, around mid-December I had a social-media catch-up with a girl I’ve known for a while now. We used to attend some mutual parties and talk a bit, joke around, but nothing special. As we were messagin, she suggested we go grab a drink when I’m avaliable and I said I’m avaliable anytime. A week later I finally hit her up about that drink, we met up and had a great time. We were both really casually dressed, basically leaving the gym and meeting up at a weird, shaggy place. Ended up having an amazing conversation, sat there just under two hours. All is good and well, agreed to meet up again once the Holidays are over.

Fast forward to 10 days later and I hit her up about meeting up again and she agrees. We talked a bit in the meantime, but nothing worth noting. Sadly, some things came up with her work and a planned trip of mine was fast approaching so we had to postpone it. Fast forward a bit more, add in one more last-minute rescheduling and we finally set up a date. Both of us clearly put more thought into our appearance and we go to a way nicer place. There’s a lot of eye contact, non-existent phone usage and we sit there for 3 hours and have a blast. She insists on paying the bill because I payed the last one. I ask to at least split it because it’s way higher than the first one was, to which she replies I’ll pay next time. - “Okay, but next time we’ll grab a bite!” - “Deal! We’ll go to that place I mentioned earlier!”

All is good and well.

But. There is no texting. I tried to initiate some conversation, but to no avail. I get a random response, but there is no follow-up. And up to this point, I have been the one following up on everything. Sure, she might have been the first to propose we grab a drink in the first place, but I was the one that had to initiate it.

I am not really good at dating and haven’t dated in a long, long time. I’m a really sociable person in his late twenties and I’m well liked, but I’m just horrible when it comes to relationships that go beyond the realm of friendship. I feel like we really clicked after those two ‘dates’ as we obviously have a lot of things in common and enjoy each others’ company. I’m just not sure if the lack of (online) communication and innitiation from her part means that she’s really not that interested in anything more.

So, uhhhh... Help me out a bit, if you can?

I’d love to grab that bite with her as soon as possible, but the last thing I want is to come off too strong and clingy.

Also, somehow her period came up in conversation. Does it, uhhh... does that mean anything? Is that like a declaration of “you are my friend who I feel comfortable talking to about my period”?

Submitted February 01, 2020 at 12:11AM

So yeah, around mid-December I had a social-media catch-up with a girl I’ve known for a while now. We used to attend some mutual parties and talk a bit, joke around, but nothing special. As we were messagin, she suggested we go grab a drink when I’m avaliable and I said I’m avaliable anytime. A week later I finally hit her up about that drink, we met up and had a great time. We were both really casually dressed, basically leaving the gym and meeting up at a weird, shaggy place. Ended up having an amazing conversation, sat there just under two hours. All is good and well, agreed to meet up again once the Holidays are over.Fast forward to 10 days later and I hit her up about meeting up again and she agrees. We talked a bit in the meantime, but nothing worth noting. Sadly, some things came up with her work and a planned trip of mine was fast approaching so we had to postpone it. Fast forward a bit more, add in one more last-minute rescheduling and we finally set up a date. Both of us clearly put more thought into our appearance and we go to a way nicer place. There’s a lot of eye contact, non-existent phone usage and we sit there for 3 hours and have a blast. She insists on paying the bill because I payed the last one. I ask to at least split it because it’s way higher than the first one was, to which she replies I’ll pay next time. - “Okay, but next time we’ll grab a bite!” - “Deal! We’ll go to that place I mentioned earlier!”All is good and well.But. There is no texting. I tried to initiate some conversation, but to no avail. I get a random response, but there is no follow-up. And up to this point, I have been the one following up on everything. Sure, she might have been the first to propose we grab a drink in the first place, but I was the one that had to initiate it.I am not really good at dating and haven’t dated in a long, long time. I’m a really sociable person in his late twenties and I’m well liked, but I’m just horrible when it comes to relationships that go beyond the realm of friendship. I feel like we really clicked after those two ‘dates’ as we obviously have a lot of things in common and enjoy each others’ company. I’m just not sure if the lack of (online) communication and innitiation from her part means that she’s really not that interested in anything more.So, uhhhh... Help me out a bit, if you can?I’d love to grab that bite with her as soon as possible, but the last thing I want is to come off too strong and clingy.Also, somehow her period came up in conversation. Does it, uhhh... does that mean anything? Is that like a declaration of “you are my friend who I feel comfortable talking to about my period”?