I lack confidence and my self-destructive way of thinking dose not help

A couple of days ago i saw this post about setting dating goals for your self that you can controll. For instance: Do -> "I am going to ask 50 girls out this year" Dont -> "i am going to sleep with 50 girls this year"

I though this sounded awesome and for the first time in a year i thought that i might be able to do this. I decided that monday after work I was gonne install tinder again and try to get back in on the dating scene.

The thing is while at work i started a toxic train of thougt wich went somthing like this: "Who on earth would want to be with someone that -

• hates his 0700 - 1500 five days a week job, and is left compleatly exhausted when he gets home.
• is only have 4 hours every day where he is not sleeping or working
• still lives at home
• not particulary good looking

Then it went over to thinking that: yes, i might get a couple of matches and there is a chance that i could end up going on a date with someone it would only feel like i tricked them.

Any tips on how to fix this self destructive way of thinking and how to see tge silverlining when all looks dark

Submitted January 19, 2020 at 12:11AM

A couple of days ago i saw this post about setting dating goals for your self that you can controll. For instance: Do -> "I am going to ask 50 girls out this year" Dont -> "i am going to sleep with 50 girls this year"I though this sounded awesome and for the first time in a year i thought that i might be able to do this. I decided that monday after work I was gonne install tinder again and try to get back in on the dating scene.The thing is while at work i started a toxic train of thougt wich went somthing like this: "Who on earth would want to be with someone that -hates his 0700 - 1500 five days a week job, and is left compleatly exhausted when he gets home.is only have 4 hours every day where he is not sleeping or workingstill lives at homenot particulary good lookingThen it went over to thinking that: yes, i might get a couple of matches and there is a chance that i could end up going on a date with someone it would only feel like i tricked them.Any tips on how to fix this self destructive way of thinking and how to see tge silverlining when all looks dark