I [21F] feel guilty for introducing my boyfriend [20F] to my shitty friend [21F]

I’m not really sure what I’m looking for by posting this; maybe just some insight as to how much of an asshole this makes me, and also some clarity because I don’t know where to go from here.

So I have an amazing boyfriend who I’ve been dating for 6 months, and I’ve been in a social circle with these 3 girls for a couple years now. 2 of them are really nice girls, but the other one is very difficult to take a liking to. For example, every time we bring her around other people they ALWAYS end up telling us how bitchy and unlikable she is. She’s manipulative and narcissistic, which has made things hard for the 2 other girls in our social circle who she has managed to sink her claws into.

She is very reckless and inconsiderate, which has led to many horrible antics on her part. I got my nose broken by a group of girls a few months ago when she flirted with one of their boyfriends at a club and I was presumed to be guilty by association. She managed to walk away without a scratch while I got beaten badly. A few days later she let me know that she was revoking her apology over the incident and that it was basically my fault for getting beat up over it. There’s no catch to that story by the way, it’s just as bad as it sounds.

There are many other examples of why she sucks but I think you get the point. She’s just bad. Family and friends are always asking me why I stick around this girl, and I don’t have a reasonable explanation. The social circle we’re in together is my only friend group, and she sort of leads the pack so when I tried to cut ties with her in the past I ended up losing all my friends. I guess I just don’t want to be lonely, and I figure if I’m hurting no one other than myself then it’s my right to carry on making the shitty choice to be her friend.

This is where my boyfriend comes in. Since she’s a part of my social circle, every time I’ve brought my boyfriend around my friends she has been there. He’s probably met her on 5 occasions now. He has officially decided that he strongly dislikes her, will not interact with her ever again, and he has no idea why I associate with her. He is mainly bothered by the fact that she pesters us incessantly by sending pornographic photos and videos of her and her boyfriend in the main group chat that we are all a part of. She also hates when any of her friends have boyfriends, so she has tried to turn me against my boyfriend on more than one occasion. I filled him in on this habit she has of turning against all of her friend’s boyfriends, and that’s just one more reason why he dislikes her.

At this point I’m feeling incredibly guilty, humiliated and idiotic. I feel like an asshole for being associated with this toxic individual, and for roping my boyfriend into her antics. I wish I could block her from everything but then my social circle will fizzle out and I won’t ever hear from my two other friends who are really sweet. I’m just conflicted. I made the decision to tolerate her bullshit at my own expense, but now I’ve obligated another person to deal with her (only up to present day; my boyfriend and I agreed that he will never have to deal with her again). I just don’t know what to do.

Tl;dr - I’m friends with a toxic individual who I can’t dodge because she’s apart of my main social circle. My boyfriend has met her on a few occasions and despises her. I feel really guilty for ever roping him into it. I chose to continue tolerating her because it wasn’t hurting anyone else, but now I feel guilty that my boyfriend has had to be a part of her antics. I don’t know what to do.

Submitted January 22, 2020 at 10:49PM

I’m not really sure what I’m looking for by posting this; maybe just some insight as to how much of an asshole this makes me, and also some clarity because I don’t know where to go from here.So I have an amazing boyfriend who I’ve been dating for 6 months, and I’ve been in a social circle with these 3 girls for a couple years now. 2 of them are really nice girls, but the other one is very difficult to take a liking to. For example, every time we bring her around other people they ALWAYS end up telling us how bitchy and unlikable she is. She’s manipulative and narcissistic, which has made things hard for the 2 other girls in our social circle who she has managed to sink her claws into.She is very reckless and inconsiderate, which has led to many horrible antics on her part. I got my nose broken by a group of girls a few months ago when she flirted with one of their boyfriends at a club and I was presumed to be guilty by association. She managed to walk away without a scratch while I got beaten badly. A few days later she let me know that she was revoking her apology over the incident and that it was basically my fault for getting beat up over it. There’s no catch to that story by the way, it’s just as bad as it sounds.There are many other examples of why she sucks but I think you get the point. She’s just bad. Family and friends are always asking me why I stick around this girl, and I don’t have a reasonable explanation. The social circle we’re in together is my only friend group, and she sort of leads the pack so when I tried to cut ties with her in the past I ended up losing all my friends. I guess I just don’t want to be lonely, and I figure if I’m hurting no one other than myself then it’s my right to carry on making the shitty choice to be her friend.This is where my boyfriend comes in. Since she’s a part of my social circle, every time I’ve brought my boyfriend around my friends she has been there. He’s probably met her on 5 occasions now. He has officially decided that he strongly dislikes her, will not interact with her ever again, and he has no idea why I associate with her. He is mainly bothered by the fact that she pesters us incessantly by sending pornographic photos and videos of her and her boyfriend in the main group chat that we are all a part of. She also hates when any of her friends have boyfriends, so she has tried to turn me against my boyfriend on more than one occasion. I filled him in on this habit she has of turning against all of her friend’s boyfriends, and that’s just one more reason why he dislikes her.At this point I’m feeling incredibly guilty, humiliated and idiotic. I feel like an asshole for being associated with this toxic individual, and for roping my boyfriend into her antics. I wish I could block her from everything but then my social circle will fizzle out and I won’t ever hear from my two other friends who are really sweet. I’m just conflicted. I made the decision to tolerate her bullshit at my own expense, but now I’ve obligated another person to deal with her (only up to present day; my boyfriend and I agreed that he will never have to deal with her again). I just don’t know what to do.Tl;dr - I’m friends with a toxic individual who I can’t dodge because she’s apart of my main social circle. My boyfriend has met her on a few occasions and despises her. I feel really guilty for ever roping him into it. I chose to continue tolerating her because it wasn’t hurting anyone else, but now I feel guilty that my boyfriend has had to be a part of her antics. I don’t know what to do.