Autistic freshman needs advice

Hiya guys So I'm just a freshman in uni (18M) and I just started using tinder to try and meet people at college. It's a big uni (50k+ and in a city) but I'm 5'4", look pretty young and am pretty average looking so I haven't had a ton of matches (also I'm autistic so I'm really new to dating and everything). So I got a match and we hit it off, were in the same department (eng) were both 1st years, were into similar stuff (outdoors, hiking, mountaineering, biking) and are even from the same original city (its a mildly big city 700k) so we hit it off, moved over to Snapchat and met up for dinner and hung out. It went pretty well, we both just chatted for hours, we met for dinner at dining hall (at 7ish) since all other places were closed cause weather and chatted there till it closed, then went back to my place and chatted till 11pm ish when she had to go back cause 8am classes. Anyways we had a part good time and have been chatting over snap for the part week and I asked her out to dinner this Friday and she came out to me as questioning her sexuality/not really sure about stuff and asked if I still wanted to have dinner. I obviously still do because I really like her and want to be friends with her (even if it's never anything more than friends). But what do I do from here, I'm really bad with social stuff and this was the first time I have ever been close to a relationship/close friendship and I really don't wanna screw things up right now. I've had issues cause of autism making friends and reading social situations (my friends describe be as having big "you wanna hear facts about trains" energy, which is painfully true) so I've been working on improving my social skills and this was the first big leap that I've made ever so I'd really appreciate any help you can provide. Ik this is a long mess, apologies as im typing this on mobile but I'm wayy outta my depth here and would love some help.



Submitted January 23, 2020 at 12:20AM

Hiya guys So I'm just a freshman in uni (18M) and I just started using tinder to try and meet people at college. It's a big uni (50k+ and in a city) but I'm 5'4", look pretty young and am pretty average looking so I haven't had a ton of matches (also I'm autistic so I'm really new to dating and everything). So I got a match and we hit it off, were in the same department (eng) were both 1st years, were into similar stuff (outdoors, hiking, mountaineering, biking) and are even from the same original city (its a mildly big city 700k) so we hit it off, moved over to Snapchat and met up for dinner and hung out. It went pretty well, we both just chatted for hours, we met for dinner at dining hall (at 7ish) since all other places were closed cause weather and chatted there till it closed, then went back to my place and chatted till 11pm ish when she had to go back cause 8am classes. Anyways we had a part good time and have been chatting over snap for the part week and I asked her out to dinner this Friday and she came out to me as questioning her sexuality/not really sure about stuff and asked if I still wanted to have dinner. I obviously still do because I really like her and want to be friends with her (even if it's never anything more than friends). But what do I do from here, I'm really bad with social stuff and this was the first time I have ever been close to a relationship/close friendship and I really don't wanna screw things up right now. I've had issues cause of autism making friends and reading social situations (my friends describe be as having big "you wanna hear facts about trains" energy, which is painfully true) so I've been working on improving my social skills and this was the first big leap that I've made ever so I'd really appreciate any help you can provide. Ik this is a long mess, apologies as im typing this on mobile but I'm wayy outta my depth here and would love some help.
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