Concerns about length of sex

I have just recently started having sex with my girlfriend (whom I love dearly), and we are both incredibly excited to start having sex with each other. We were both each other’s first sexual experiences. I love having sex with her because she is just so amazing, beautiful, sexy, and understanding in the bedroom.

However, a small number of our close friends have found out and have been extremely critical of how long sex usually lasts with my girlfriend. The first time and when we both lost our virginities, sex lasted between 1-1.5 hours. The last two times it’s lasted anywhere between 3-4 hours, but we weren’t keeping strict track of time. These friends have said that having sex for this long isn’t normal, which I understand and partially agree with in the sense that it’s statistically unusual from quick google searches. They’ve also said that it’s not good for either of us as having sex for that long will make her sore (she’s mentioned it doesn’t make her sore at all) and will also make me sore, which is hasn’t. It’s not an issue of me not being comfortable and/or not being able to finish; both of us would simply just prefer taking our time in pleasuring the other, and i enjoy just making love to my girlfriend.

I apologize for making this post so long, but figured it’d be helpful to add some context in case anyone had questions or comments.

Also, how long does sex usually last for you guys? How long do you wish it would last and how long do you think it should last? And is it bad or not good that sex with my girlfriend often lasts this long?

P.S. - any comments or concerns are appreciated, and I am happy to answer any questions!



Submitted January 22, 2020 at 11:48PM

I have just recently started having sex with my girlfriend (whom I love dearly), and we are both incredibly excited to start having sex with each other. We were both each other’s first sexual experiences. I love having sex with her because she is just so amazing, beautiful, sexy, and understanding in the bedroom.However, a small number of our close friends have found out and have been extremely critical of how long sex usually lasts with my girlfriend. The first time and when we both lost our virginities, sex lasted between 1-1.5 hours. The last two times it’s lasted anywhere between 3-4 hours, but we weren’t keeping strict track of time. These friends have said that having sex for this long isn’t normal, which I understand and partially agree with in the sense that it’s statistically unusual from quick google searches. They’ve also said that it’s not good for either of us as having sex for that long will make her sore (she’s mentioned it doesn’t make her sore at all) and will also make me sore, which is hasn’t. It’s not an issue of me not being comfortable and/or not being able to finish; both of us would simply just prefer taking our time in pleasuring the other, and i enjoy just making love to my girlfriend.I apologize for making this post so long, but figured it’d be helpful to add some context in case anyone had questions or comments.Also, how long does sex usually last for you guys? How long do you wish it would last and how long do you think it should last? And is it bad or not good that sex with my girlfriend often lasts this long?P.S. - any comments or concerns are appreciated, and I am happy to answer any questions!

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