Absolutely obsessed with Asian women and feeling super guilty about it

I’m a British Nigerian man, I was born in Nigeria but my parents moved me to the UK so my citizenship is from there. I recently moved to the states for an IT job and I’m just shocked by all the beautiful asian women in this area. There were Asian people in the UK, but it seems like the west coast is just teeming with them, and I love it.

I feel guilty saying this, but I am absolutely obsessed with Asian beauty. They have this allure about them that I just don’t get with other women. I love other women, no lie, and this is not to put them down. I just can’t seem to get enough of Asian women. Something about the contrast between our bodies in both colour and shape.

It’s slowly taking over my life and I’m not sure how to cope. 1. it would be difficult for me to maintain an interracial relationship. My parents have been dying for me to bring home a nice Nigerian girl, and whole our women are bad af, more more these days I think I want an Asian woman. And that’s what’s weird about it, it doesn’t even matter where in Asian, just that she’s Asian. At least that’s how I’m making sense of it. I like East Asians as much as I like southern asians. I mean, Indian women? God, idk what to do sometimes.

I want to make it clear I genuinely like Asian folks and their culture. Not that fetishy crap you see people do where they make Asian women their subs and call them that C word. No I want to love one for all that she brings to the table. I just can’t help feeling like when I expressed how drawn I am to Asian women that someone is going to accuse me of having a fetish or hating my own women.

Any advice on how to navigate this?



Submitted January 22, 2020 at 11:56PM

I’m a British Nigerian man, I was born in Nigeria but my parents moved me to the UK so my citizenship is from there. I recently moved to the states for an IT job and I’m just shocked by all the beautiful asian women in this area. There were Asian people in the UK, but it seems like the west coast is just teeming with them, and I love it.I feel guilty saying this, but I am absolutely obsessed with Asian beauty. They have this allure about them that I just don’t get with other women. I love other women, no lie, and this is not to put them down. I just can’t seem to get enough of Asian women. Something about the contrast between our bodies in both colour and shape.It’s slowly taking over my life and I’m not sure how to cope. 1. it would be difficult for me to maintain an interracial relationship. My parents have been dying for me to bring home a nice Nigerian girl, and whole our women are bad af, more more these days I think I want an Asian woman. And that’s what’s weird about it, it doesn’t even matter where in Asian, just that she’s Asian. At least that’s how I’m making sense of it. I like East Asians as much as I like southern asians. I mean, Indian women? God, idk what to do sometimes.I want to make it clear I genuinely like Asian folks and their culture. Not that fetishy crap you see people do where they make Asian women their subs and call them that C word. No I want to love one for all that she brings to the table. I just can’t help feeling like when I expressed how drawn I am to Asian women that someone is going to accuse me of having a fetish or hating my own women.Any advice on how to navigate this?
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