Bf (21M) doesn't seem to care about the gifts I (20F) get him

Ok this is a bit misleading but I didn't wanna make the title too long. He cares but he loses them or lets them break and then he gets annoyed when I get pissed. And I'm not talking cheap gifts either. Like couple-hundred-dollar gifts. I've always put a lot of thought into my gifts which is why they tend to be pricey, I use old memories or his favorite things and create something personal to give to him. And twice in the last month has it backfired, because the one thing broke (and he blamed me when the warranty expired even though I told him when it did. He claims I didn't) and he lost the other thing. He doesn't ever act like it matters he just says "it'll turn up" or just waits until I keep nagging him to get the thing fixed. Of course, it's too late to fix the thing now, which really upsets me because it was $400 straight down the drain.

When I make him stuff it just get stuffed in a drawer or crumpled up behind a desk. And I'm very good at writing and art so this feels like a huge blow to me.

I'm extremely reluctant to get him or make him anything this Christmas. On one hand, I love putting thought and heart into gifts I give. But on the other hand, I know any effort will just get lost or tossed aside.

We've been together a while (about 2 yrs) and I've always taken really good care of whatever he gives me. He says he doesn't care if I do anything for him for Christmas, which makes me sadder because I want to do something.

Tldr; bf has a habit of losing or breaking gifts I make/buy for him. Not sure if I should do anything for Christmas. He says he doesn't care, which hurts me bc I want to do something and he makes me feel like my efforts pointless

Submitted December 21, 2019 at 11:55PM

Ok this is a bit misleading but I didn't wanna make the title too long. He cares but he loses them or lets them break and then he gets annoyed when I get pissed. And I'm not talking cheap gifts either. Like couple-hundred-dollar gifts. I've always put a lot of thought into my gifts which is why they tend to be pricey, I use old memories or his favorite things and create something personal to give to him. And twice in the last month has it backfired, because the one thing broke (and he blamed me when the warranty expired even though I told him when it did. He claims I didn't) and he lost the other thing. He doesn't ever act like it matters he just says "it'll turn up" or just waits until I keep nagging him to get the thing fixed. Of course, it's too late to fix the thing now, which really upsets me because it was $400 straight down the drain.When I make him stuff it just get stuffed in a drawer or crumpled up behind a desk. And I'm very good at writing and art so this feels like a huge blow to me.I'm extremely reluctant to get him or make him anything this Christmas. On one hand, I love putting thought and heart into gifts I give. But on the other hand, I know any effort will just get lost or tossed aside.We've been together a while (about 2 yrs) and I've always taken really good care of whatever he gives me. He says he doesn't care if I do anything for him for Christmas, which makes me sadder because I want to do something.Tldr; bf has a habit of losing or breaking gifts I make/buy for him. Not sure if I should do anything for Christmas. He says he doesn't care, which hurts me bc I want to do something and he makes me feel like my efforts pointless