Some girl I met out in a bar, hard to explain in a title.

So, I went on a night out about three or four weeks ago, at one bar there was this group of women nearby, one of whom I thought was really attractive. I checked her out, and later I remember seeing her looking at me for a little bit, doesn't necessarily mean she was interested, but yeah.

I got talking to her as we went over to them, she and I spoke for a good while, just a mature conversation talking about everyday stuff. She said she has a partner (but doesn't live with them), and I can't remember who brought the conversation topic of the gym up, but I said that I've recently started going to the gym. Keep in mind, I'm not a fitness freak, bodybuilder or anything like that; I only go very occasionally, but she kept saying I could be her gym buddy and she wanted me to "be her trainer/personal trainer/train her at the gym". She said all those exact words, and she said that I should let her know when I'm going so she can go at the same time or she'd just see me around there. I asked to add her on FB and she told me her name, I added her. We have quite a few mutual friends, so she knows quite a few people I know. For those who'll say I shouldn't have added her because she has a partner, I thought they may be taking a break or something, or she could even be in an open relationship! (I doubt it, but who knows?). None of her photos on there that I saw were of her and her partner.

She didn't accept the FB request, but I'm still wondering - a girl who has a boyfriend repeatedly asks a guy she's just met an hour or so before in a bar to train them at the gym like that. What was she trying to achieve by this if she didn't bother accepting the request? Do you think they were taking a break and she was temporarily single?

Submitted November 06, 2019 at 11:46PM

So, I went on a night out about three or four weeks ago, at one bar there was this group of women nearby, one of whom I thought was really attractive. I checked her out, and later I remember seeing her looking at me for a little bit, doesn't necessarily mean she was interested, but yeah.I got talking to her as we went over to them, she and I spoke for a good while, just a mature conversation talking about everyday stuff. She said she has a partner (but doesn't live with them), and I can't remember who brought the conversation topic of the gym up, but I said that I've recently started going to the gym. Keep in mind, I'm not a fitness freak, bodybuilder or anything like that; I only go very occasionally, but she kept saying I could be her gym buddy and she wanted me to "be her trainer/personal trainer/train her at the gym". She said all those exact words, and she said that I should let her know when I'm going so she can go at the same time or she'd just see me around there. I asked to add her on FB and she told me her name, I added her. We have quite a few mutual friends, so she knows quite a few people I know. For those who'll say I shouldn't have added her because she has a partner, I thought they may be taking a break or something, or she could even be in an open relationship! (I doubt it, but who knows?). None of her photos on there that I saw were of her and her partner.She didn't accept the FB request, but I'm still wondering - a girl who has a boyfriend repeatedly asks a guy she's just met an hour or so before in a bar to train them at the gym like that. What was she trying to achieve by this if she didn't bother accepting the request? Do you think they were taking a break and she was temporarily single?