breakingup over text is always bad, but is this an exception?

i (21f) have been seeing this girl (23f) for a little over a month. we met on a dating app. the first 2 weeks of us seeing each other was mainly hanging out and having sex. neither of us was sure what we wanted, and i wasnt sure if i liked her in a romantic way or not. after about another week though, i realized i was forming a crush on her.

she had awkwardly tried to bring up the topic of 'what we are' a couple of times, but i avoided it everytime. which was immature. eventually she told me she liked me over text, and i told her i liked her back. since then, basically all of our conversations regarding feelings and the relationship have been over text.

im really sad to say this but over the past couple of days ive realized that she clearly likes me more than i like her. im not nearly as emotionally available as she is, mostly because of the fact that my last breakup was recent. (she is aware of how recent it was when we first starting talking about this stuff, and i told her i'd need time. she was completely okay with it, but i'm now realizing she probably cant help but expect a lot more from me, which i cannot provide)

so, my question: i know breaking up is probably the most ethical option here since i dont wanna lead her on. most people say doing it through text is always impersonal and insensitive. but since most of our conversations regarding feelings & the relationship so far have been over text, would it make the most sense to do it over text, or is that still a dick move? we're both pretty awkward around those kinds of topics in person, and i think it would be more comfortable for everyone involved to do it over text... plus i'm a very anxious person and i think i'd forget half of what i wanted/needed to say. i'll do it in person if thats what the general consensus on here is, i just wanna so it as kindly as i can and need advice

Submitted November 20, 2019 at 11:54PM

i (21f) have been seeing this girl (23f) for a little over a month. we met on a dating app. the first 2 weeks of us seeing each other was mainly hanging out and having sex. neither of us was sure what we wanted, and i wasnt sure if i liked her in a romantic way or not. after about another week though, i realized i was forming a crush on her.she had awkwardly tried to bring up the topic of 'what we are' a couple of times, but i avoided it everytime. which was immature. eventually she told me she liked me over text, and i told her i liked her back. since then, basically all of our conversations regarding feelings and the relationship have been over text.im really sad to say this but over the past couple of days ive realized that she clearly likes me more than i like her. im not nearly as emotionally available as she is, mostly because of the fact that my last breakup was recent. (she is aware of how recent it was when we first starting talking about this stuff, and i told her i'd need time. she was completely okay with it, but i'm now realizing she probably cant help but expect a lot more from me, which i cannot provide)so, my question: i know breaking up is probably the most ethical option here since i dont wanna lead her on. most people say doing it through text is always impersonal and insensitive. but since most of our conversations regarding feelings & the relationship so far have been over text, would it make the most sense to do it over text, or is that still a dick move? we're both pretty awkward around those kinds of topics in person, and i think it would be more comfortable for everyone involved to do it over text... plus i'm a very anxious person and i think i'd forget half of what i wanted/needed to say. i'll do it in person if thats what the general consensus on here is, i just wanna so it as kindly as i can and need advice