Boyfriend's penis keeps coming out during cowgirl

It's really embarrassing, and I feel self consicous about my body when I go on top anyway, but my boyfriend's penis won't stay inside me when I get on top. We'll try repeatedly but by that time he won't be hard enough for me to put it in anyway. His penis is maybe 5.5"/6" at his hardest. I thought it was a problem with my vagina, or maybe I was too fat for that position/my butt was too big? I am bigger than my boyfriend, my bum is really big so we can't do spooning. We've done reverse cowgirl just fine before and he has stayed in (well I think he came out once). But every single time we do cowgirl he will slip out immediately. I'm not thrusting too high off him so idk what's happening, I'm tried just grinding but it still slips out.

I've been really embarrassed and blaming myself, thinking maybe I'm just too fat for cowgirl or something. My current boyfriend said he thinks maybe I'm just leaning too far forward when I'm o top. I also feel self conscious when I'm on top, because he can see my stomach. I'm sure he's seen it before so I know it's silly but I just feel self conscious and so I gave up trying to get on top of him. I'm scared I'm gonna crush him to death or break his dick.

I am self conscious anyway during sex because of my size which makes it really hard to relax and have an orgasm. I've noticed the girls he points out he likes are normally quite slim girls so I'm just puzzled as to why he even is attracted to me anyway. Sometimes I feel like asking him this but it sounds so stupid to say out loud. He's told me he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful. Anyway, this last issue is a bit tangential and I'm trying to work through it with a therapist. I'm sure if I did cowgirl a few times I'd start feeling more comfortable top. I am sure he loves me so I'm sure he doesn't mind my body at all. The main issue is just the slipping out while on top. Is it just not gonna be possible for us?



Submitted November 12, 2019 at 11:58PM

It's really embarrassing, and I feel self consicous about my body when I go on top anyway, but my boyfriend's penis won't stay inside me when I get on top. We'll try repeatedly but by that time he won't be hard enough for me to put it in anyway. His penis is maybe 5.5"/6" at his hardest. I thought it was a problem with my vagina, or maybe I was too fat for that position/my butt was too big? I am bigger than my boyfriend, my bum is really big so we can't do spooning. We've done reverse cowgirl just fine before and he has stayed in (well I think he came out once). But every single time we do cowgirl he will slip out immediately. I'm not thrusting too high off him so idk what's happening, I'm tried just grinding but it still slips out.I've been really embarrassed and blaming myself, thinking maybe I'm just too fat for cowgirl or something. My current boyfriend said he thinks maybe I'm just leaning too far forward when I'm o top. I also feel self conscious when I'm on top, because he can see my stomach. I'm sure he's seen it before so I know it's silly but I just feel self conscious and so I gave up trying to get on top of him. I'm scared I'm gonna crush him to death or break his dick.I am self conscious anyway during sex because of my size which makes it really hard to relax and have an orgasm. I've noticed the girls he points out he likes are normally quite slim girls so I'm just puzzled as to why he even is attracted to me anyway. Sometimes I feel like asking him this but it sounds so stupid to say out loud. He's told me he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful. Anyway, this last issue is a bit tangential and I'm trying to work through it with a therapist. I'm sure if I did cowgirl a few times I'd start feeling more comfortable top. I am sure he loves me so I'm sure he doesn't mind my body at all. The main issue is just the slipping out while on top. Is it just not gonna be possible for us?
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