Am I doing the right thing by breaking up over text?

Ok so, I've (22F) been dating this guy (22M) for around 2 months now. Little back story, we've been friends ever since high school (so around 8 years). We weren't that close in high school but we considered each other "good friends", and then when our paths crossed again 3 years after high school, we hung out platonically for like a whole year and then HE started flirting with me. I realized that I kinda like him so I flirted back etc and we decided to give a relationship a shot.

It was going good etc for a few weeks, and then he told me that he had to focus on himself, that he may not have as much time for me anymore but that he still wanted to be together. I said ok. And then ever since that day and for about 2 weeks now, he kinda ghosted me. If I didn't initiate the conversation he wouldn't. And so I decided that it would be better if we stopped dating so that at least we could end things on good terms and we could try to go back to being friends. But the thing is, we were supposed to see eachother a week ago and he canceled (the reason was understandable so I'm not angry at that). And we were also supposed to see eachother yesterday with our group of friends, but he also didn't show. And instead of calling me, his "supposed" girlfriend to tell me that he wasn't gonna show up, he called my friend ! She was right in front of me. And clearly he wants to send a message, and I got the message loud and clear but I'm so pissed that he's playing dumb games instead of communicating like a god damn grown adult.

So anyways, my question is, out of respect for the friendship that we had/have, I didn't want to break up with him over text, but he's giving me no choice here because he's avoiding me, so I should just send a text right?



Submitted November 29, 2019 at 12:01AM

Ok so, I've (22F) been dating this guy (22M) for around 2 months now. Little back story, we've been friends ever since high school (so around 8 years). We weren't that close in high school but we considered each other "good friends", and then when our paths crossed again 3 years after high school, we hung out platonically for like a whole year and then HE started flirting with me. I realized that I kinda like him so I flirted back etc and we decided to give a relationship a shot.It was going good etc for a few weeks, and then he told me that he had to focus on himself, that he may not have as much time for me anymore but that he still wanted to be together. I said ok. And then ever since that day and for about 2 weeks now, he kinda ghosted me. If I didn't initiate the conversation he wouldn't. And so I decided that it would be better if we stopped dating so that at least we could end things on good terms and we could try to go back to being friends. But the thing is, we were supposed to see eachother a week ago and he canceled (the reason was understandable so I'm not angry at that). And we were also supposed to see eachother yesterday with our group of friends, but he also didn't show. And instead of calling me, his "supposed" girlfriend to tell me that he wasn't gonna show up, he called my friend ! She was right in front of me. And clearly he wants to send a message, and I got the message loud and clear but I'm so pissed that he's playing dumb games instead of communicating like a god damn grown adult.So anyways, my question is, out of respect for the friendship that we had/have, I didn't want to break up with him over text, but he's giving me no choice here because he's avoiding me, so I should just send a text right?

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