Should I (21M) do anything about my Girlfriends (19F) creepy coworker (24M)?

So my girlfriend and I work in the same facility, but we work for different companies in different parts. She added me on Facebook one night after seeing me on our employee shuttle. We started dating and have now been together for about 2 months. Early on I found out about a couple coworkers she has that were interested in her. The first guy we can call Alex, from what I know he is a nice guy, I have seen him around and spoken to him a couple times. He sent her a couple flirty text messages, and she found out he was into her through other coworkers, this was also before her and I met. Her and I talked about it, Im whatever about it, I trust her, if she wanted him she wouldnt have pursued me.

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But there is another guy, we can call him Richard. Richard is kind of a creep in my opinion. He pursued her as soon as she started with the company (about 4 months ago), and hasnt let up. He asked her out, she said no, but he wont stop texting her calling her. If that was it, then Id be whatever about it too, but he was done some weird stuff, things such as following her to her car after work, blocking her car in with his car so she cant get out, followed her to the gym after work and sat in his car waiting for her to come out for 2 hours, leaving gifts for her on her car, when she rejected him he called her a whore, most of this was before I met her also, spread a rumor that they were dating, the only thing he has done since is leave the gift on her car, and text her. Her coworkers dont let her go to the bathroom alone because they are worried he might bother her, its a long walk to the bathroom for her. Her coworkers walk her to her car at night so he doesnt, and sometimes her friend(21F) will follow her home to make sure he doesnt try and follow her. My girlfriend went to management but they arent very helpful. Im gonna be real, I told my girlfriend not to associate with this guy at all, not because I dont trust her, but because I feel that every time she is nice to him, he takes it as an invite to come back again. She said she doesnt talk to him, and has told him numerous times she isnt interested but he is always trying to talk to her. Also he works for the same company as she does but does a different job in a different part of the facility. My girlfriend works in the main office in the facility so he has to come by to clock in and speak with management.

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So here is the issue, we work in the same facility, if we didnt, there would be no hesitation to go and say something to this guy. Not threaten him, just telling him to back off and respect our relationship. But I am worried that if I were to do that, then he would go to my bosses and try and say I was harassing him. And I dont want to lose my job because it is my career job. Is there anything I should do? It isnt causing a lot of stress on the relationship, I trust she will make good decisions but when it does come up, I do get a little stressed about it.

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TL;DR Weird guy at my girls work is doing creepy stuff, I dont know if I should do anything in fear he may go to my management and say I was harassing him.

Submitted September 20, 2019 at 11:42PM

So my girlfriend and I work in the same facility, but we work for different companies in different parts. She added me on Facebook one night after seeing me on our employee shuttle. We started dating and have now been together for about 2 months. Early on I found out about a couple coworkers she has that were interested in her. The first guy we can call Alex, from what I know he is a nice guy, I have seen him around and spoken to him a couple times. He sent her a couple flirty text messages, and she found out he was into her through other coworkers, this was also before her and I met. Her and I talked about it, Im whatever about it, I trust her, if she wanted him she wouldnt have pursued me.​But there is another guy, we can call him Richard. Richard is kind of a creep in my opinion. He pursued her as soon as she started with the company (about 4 months ago), and hasnt let up. He asked her out, she said no, but he wont stop texting her calling her. If that was it, then Id be whatever about it too, but he was done some weird stuff, things such as following her to her car after work, blocking her car in with his car so she cant get out, followed her to the gym after work and sat in his car waiting for her to come out for 2 hours, leaving gifts for her on her car, when she rejected him he called her a whore, most of this was before I met her also, spread a rumor that they were dating, the only thing he has done since is leave the gift on her car, and text her. Her coworkers dont let her go to the bathroom alone because they are worried he might bother her, its a long walk to the bathroom for her. Her coworkers walk her to her car at night so he doesnt, and sometimes her friend(21F) will follow her home to make sure he doesnt try and follow her. My girlfriend went to management but they arent very helpful. Im gonna be real, I told my girlfriend not to associate with this guy at all, not because I dont trust her, but because I feel that every time she is nice to him, he takes it as an invite to come back again. She said she doesnt talk to him, and has told him numerous times she isnt interested but he is always trying to talk to her. Also he works for the same company as she does but does a different job in a different part of the facility. My girlfriend works in the main office in the facility so he has to come by to clock in and speak with management.​So here is the issue, we work in the same facility, if we didnt, there would be no hesitation to go and say something to this guy. Not threaten him, just telling him to back off and respect our relationship. But I am worried that if I were to do that, then he would go to my bosses and try and say I was harassing him. And I dont want to lose my job because it is my career job. Is there anything I should do? It isnt causing a lot of stress on the relationship, I trust she will make good decisions but when it does come up, I do get a little stressed about it.​TL;DR Weird guy at my girls work is doing creepy stuff, I dont know if I should do anything in fear he may go to my management and say I was harassing him.