Am I [21/F] wrong for not coming clean about my sexual history to my current partner [26/M] ?

This is going to be a weird one but need some advice on handling the situation before it gets out of control.

I've been seeing my current boyfriend for the last few months. I've been honest, he's never judged me and I trust him. However, something came up that I'm not sure how to handle it; or if I can handle it at all.

Prior to this relationship, I was in a relationship with a very sexually open person. Through the two years we dated, we've filmed a lot of explicit stuff together for fun. Me and him, me and other guys; there's a lot of footage. He was interested in filming and he got my full consent so he is by no stretch of the imagination at fault for this.

A couple of days ago, my boyfriend sat me down and told me he's started receiving emails explaining the things I've done and that I've filmed. I saw the emails, I read all of them. While there's no footage, there are things written that are true to a T. I panicked and instead of coming clean, I said it's probably a sick joke, that I've never done any of those things and that he shouldn't worry and block the email address sending him the messages.

I instantly called my exboyfriend and told him about the situation. He was even more surprised than me and he has no clue what's happening. He's the only person that has the videos and I trust him when he says he's never ever shown them to anyone. We didn't have a nasty breakup and while we don't communicate nor see each other, we are cool. He even offered to talk to my boyfriend if the situation gets nasty and in the meantime, he'll try to figure out what's going on if he can.

I'm at odds. Chances are, whoever is sending the emails doesn't have the videos but clearly knows almost everything. I'm not sure whether coming clean and telling my boyfriend is a good idea but at the same time, a scary thought of the person sending the emails having the actual videos is creeping on my mind.

TL;DR: Someone is sending my boyfriend emails about videos and things that I've done in the past. I'm not sure whether coming clean is the better option or trying to sail through the problem.

Submitted September 20, 2019 at 11:49PM

This is going to be a weird one but need some advice on handling the situation before it gets out of control.I've been seeing my current boyfriend for the last few months. I've been honest, he's never judged me and I trust him. However, something came up that I'm not sure how to handle it; or if I can handle it at all.Prior to this relationship, I was in a relationship with a very sexually open person. Through the two years we dated, we've filmed a lot of explicit stuff together for fun. Me and him, me and other guys; there's a lot of footage. He was interested in filming and he got my full consent so he is by no stretch of the imagination at fault for this.A couple of days ago, my boyfriend sat me down and told me he's started receiving emails explaining the things I've done and that I've filmed. I saw the emails, I read all of them. While there's no footage, there are things written that are true to a T. I panicked and instead of coming clean, I said it's probably a sick joke, that I've never done any of those things and that he shouldn't worry and block the email address sending him the messages.I instantly called my exboyfriend and told him about the situation. He was even more surprised than me and he has no clue what's happening. He's the only person that has the videos and I trust him when he says he's never ever shown them to anyone. We didn't have a nasty breakup and while we don't communicate nor see each other, we are cool. He even offered to talk to my boyfriend if the situation gets nasty and in the meantime, he'll try to figure out what's going on if he can.I'm at odds. Chances are, whoever is sending the emails doesn't have the videos but clearly knows almost everything. I'm not sure whether coming clean and telling my boyfriend is a good idea but at the same time, a scary thought of the person sending the emails having the actual videos is creeping on my mind.TL;DR: Someone is sending my boyfriend emails about videos and things that I've done in the past. I'm not sure whether coming clean is the better option or trying to sail through the problem.