18(f) with 20(m) is the problem with me or is he just not attracted to girls?

I have a crush on a guy who comes across as kind of emotional and sensitive. He's very shy, and whenever I spend time with him he won't look me in the eye at all. I mean, I can be talking to him for a couple of hours but he will not make eyecontact whatsoever. The last time I spent time with him he seemed to be more reserved than normal, I kept trying to make conversation but he kept giving me short answers, and after about half an hour of talking he just got up and left. I felt hurt and upset, and like he didn't want to be friends anymore. It's easy to talk to him over the internet, but hanging out is a lot harder because he's really hard to open up. I watch him around his guy friends and he seems so much more happier and livelier. The reason I suspect he's gay is that he told me he's been close to one of his friend's and been talking about personal stuff with them. He seems to want close friendships with other guys because he doesn't have many friends, the thing is I can't understand why he puts distance between myself and him. He seems to get very uncomfortable if I show him I like him, like I once confessed to him, and he made an excuse to leave. He also kept telling me how he wanted to talk to this one adult figure who was a man, and how he felt nervous around him and wanted his approval really badly, and it just made me feel very very confused on whether or not this was a crush. I thought he liked me due to all this shyness but I really don't know because he's rejected me romantically before, and the topic of having feelings has never been discussed, whenever I discuss my feelings for him he just says nothing. he never tries anything with me, so I feel kind of bored and like he isn't interested. he talks to me whenever I want to talk but it's never the other way around.

tl;dr : I like a guy, he's somewhat receptive but relationship heads nowhere. It's probably because of me, but I also wonder it might be because he likes men?

Submitted September 21, 2019 at 12:10AM

I have a crush on a guy who comes across as kind of emotional and sensitive. He's very shy, and whenever I spend time with him he won't look me in the eye at all. I mean, I can be talking to him for a couple of hours but he will not make eyecontact whatsoever. The last time I spent time with him he seemed to be more reserved than normal, I kept trying to make conversation but he kept giving me short answers, and after about half an hour of talking he just got up and left. I felt hurt and upset, and like he didn't want to be friends anymore. It's easy to talk to him over the internet, but hanging out is a lot harder because he's really hard to open up. I watch him around his guy friends and he seems so much more happier and livelier. The reason I suspect he's gay is that he told me he's been close to one of his friend's and been talking about personal stuff with them. He seems to want close friendships with other guys because he doesn't have many friends, the thing is I can't understand why he puts distance between myself and him. He seems to get very uncomfortable if I show him I like him, like I once confessed to him, and he made an excuse to leave. He also kept telling me how he wanted to talk to this one adult figure who was a man, and how he felt nervous around him and wanted his approval really badly, and it just made me feel very very confused on whether or not this was a crush. I thought he liked me due to all this shyness but I really don't know because he's rejected me romantically before, and the topic of having feelings has never been discussed, whenever I discuss my feelings for him he just says nothing. he never tries anything with me, so I feel kind of bored and like he isn't interested. he talks to me whenever I want to talk but it's never the other way around.tl;dr : I like a guy, he's somewhat receptive but relationship heads nowhere. It's probably because of me, but I also wonder it might be because he likes men?