Am I (20F) worrying too much about my SO (20M) drinking a lot while studying abroad?

TL;DR - My bf has had periods of heavy drinking in the past, and now he's studying abroad where it will be legal for him to drink and talks about drinking and going out a lot. Is it okay for me to be concerned about this?

My (20F) boyfriend (20M) and I have been dating for almost a year, and we both go to the same college. He's studying abroad this semester and he has just gotten to the campus and has met his new housemates. The thing that concerns me a little is how much he'll be drinking while he's over there.

We live in the US so neither of us can legally drink there yet, but it's not like it's hard to get alcohol at college. He has told me before that freshman year of college he drank and partied a lot, to the point of blacking out or throwing up a lot. He definitely doesn't drink as often and he has only gotten really drunk once in the time we've been dating. I don't have an issue with drinking, I've been drunk a few times too, but I drink much less often and in smaller quantities than him and most people I know at college, only every few weeks or so.

Over the summer he and his entire extended family went on a big family reunion to Ireland, and obviously there was a lot of drinking all around because his brother and cousins could all drink too. And when I say a lot, I mean A LOT, like starting with beers at 10am or even earlier some days and continuing to drink until midnight. And he would always complain about how much everyone was drinking and tell me he didn't want to drink so much when we texted, and I always told him he doesn't have to drink if he doesn't want to, but he would still drink all day every day anyway. And now that he's studying abroad in a country he can legally drink and buy alcohol, and he's been drinking for several hours already on his first night there and talking about how he'll be going to the pubs a lot, I'm a little worried.

I'm not trying to police his behavior, but when he tells me about all the times he drank from morning till midnight in Ireland and blacked out or puked freshman year of school, I'm just worried he'll fall back into this pattern of getting hammered every weekend when he's in a different country with people he's never met. How can I tell him my concerns without coming across as nagging or something? Am I being too controlling here?

Submitted September 20, 2019 at 11:30PM

TL;DR - My bf has had periods of heavy drinking in the past, and now he's studying abroad where it will be legal for him to drink and talks about drinking and going out a lot. Is it okay for me to be concerned about this?My (20F) boyfriend (20M) and I have been dating for almost a year, and we both go to the same college. He's studying abroad this semester and he has just gotten to the campus and has met his new housemates. The thing that concerns me a little is how much he'll be drinking while he's over there.We live in the US so neither of us can legally drink there yet, but it's not like it's hard to get alcohol at college. He has told me before that freshman year of college he drank and partied a lot, to the point of blacking out or throwing up a lot. He definitely doesn't drink as often and he has only gotten really drunk once in the time we've been dating. I don't have an issue with drinking, I've been drunk a few times too, but I drink much less often and in smaller quantities than him and most people I know at college, only every few weeks or so.Over the summer he and his entire extended family went on a big family reunion to Ireland, and obviously there was a lot of drinking all around because his brother and cousins could all drink too. And when I say a lot, I mean A LOT, like starting with beers at 10am or even earlier some days and continuing to drink until midnight. And he would always complain about how much everyone was drinking and tell me he didn't want to drink so much when we texted, and I always told him he doesn't have to drink if he doesn't want to, but he would still drink all day every day anyway. And now that he's studying abroad in a country he can legally drink and buy alcohol, and he's been drinking for several hours already on his first night there and talking about how he'll be going to the pubs a lot, I'm a little worried.I'm not trying to police his behavior, but when he tells me about all the times he drank from morning till midnight in Ireland and blacked out or puked freshman year of school, I'm just worried he'll fall back into this pattern of getting hammered every weekend when he's in a different country with people he's never met. How can I tell him my concerns without coming across as nagging or something? Am I being too controlling here?